She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Nope not at all.phooey73 said:Having the ability to be friends with girls is actually helpful in hooking up. Discuss.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You're alone thereMaxtro said:Nope not at all.
I haven't even kissed any of the girls that were my friends. Also none of those girls have ever introduced me to any girls.
This one is helpful and worth readingScars said:^ That's good Maxtro. Make it very clear at the beginning of the relationship/friendship that you demand respect and always portray your sexuality. Even if she doesn't like you then maybe one of her friends will. The problem lies within oneitis. An AFC will have a girl friend trying to hand him off to get rid of him. While a good guy friend that she has qualified as good "boyfriend material" will generally get her hotter friend. Woman love to play matchmaker! But of course, you should avoid female friendships all together unless you're getting SOMETHING out of it.
This one isn'tExhumed said:You're alone there
I don't even think that is true. I've never had a girl try and pass me off to somebody else. The only conclusion is that they may have thought I wasn't good enough for any of their friends... Or maybe none of their friends were single at the time.An AFC will have a girl friend trying to hand him off to get rid of him