Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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phooey73

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Having the ability to be friends with girls is actually helpful in hooking up. Discuss.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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The more friends you have the better.
 

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i agree, it is helpful. I have a good friend who's a girl whom i hang out with a lot. some people here may say i'm her "girl" friend or whatever but i don't really care. I just like girls either way. anyway, she's a GREAT wing man for me. whenever we go out she'll help me get just about any girl. it's great because it makes the girls more comfortable to be around me when one of my girl friends is there too. it also helps because if they're both drunk i can get them to make out :p
 

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There's two sides to this coin. Some of the guys will say that it's great to have female friends (social proof, they can hook you up with friends etc..) then their are the other guys like KontrollerX that say it's useless being in any sort of relationship with a woman unless it's a physical one. Both make valid points, and for awhile I've been on the fence about it. I used to have a lot of female friends, but now adays I find myself turning the friendships sexual or dropping them all together. My two "best female friends" I now have regular sex with. A female friend of mine was complaining about how an aquaintance (somewhat friend) was being a pvssy and wouldn't fvck her. So I fvcked her. And in return she is hooking me up with one her friends if I can "man up" the guy she likes. What an awesome deal. Most of my lady friends I've had sex with at least once. A lot of them will go out of there way to get you layed, especially if they're trying to LJBF you. But if you already fvcked them, then who cares? It's a win-win situation to me.
 

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phooey73 said:
Having the ability to be friends with girls is actually helpful in hooking up. Discuss.
Nope not at all.

I haven't even kissed any of the girls that were my friends. Also none of those girls have ever introduced me to any girls.

Of course it's all my fault for letting those girls see me as "one of the girls."

Right now there isn't a girl out there that I can call my friend. 99% of my friendships with girls ended because I wanted to get sexual with them and they didn't feel the same way.

Months ago I decided to be upfront about my sexuality and never let a girl think that I'm not a man. I am not going through the same shit again!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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^ That's good Maxtro. Make it very clear at the beginning of the relationship/friendship that you demand respect and always portray your sexuality. Even if she doesn't like you then maybe one of her friends will. The problem lies within oneitis. An AFC will have a girl friend trying to hand him off to get rid of him. While a good guy friend that she has qualified as good "boyfriend material" will generally get her hotter friend. Woman love to play matchmaker! But of course, you should avoid female friendships all together unless you're getting SOMETHING out of it.
 

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How wonderful. Today we can see the difference between a helpful post and an unhelpful post
Scars said:
^ That's good Maxtro. Make it very clear at the beginning of the relationship/friendship that you demand respect and always portray your sexuality. Even if she doesn't like you then maybe one of her friends will. The problem lies within oneitis. An AFC will have a girl friend trying to hand him off to get rid of him. While a good guy friend that she has qualified as good "boyfriend material" will generally get her hotter friend. Woman love to play matchmaker! But of course, you should avoid female friendships all together unless you're getting SOMETHING out of it.
This one is helpful and worth reading :up:
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You're alone there
This one isn't :down:

An AFC will have a girl friend trying to hand him off to get rid of him
I don't even think that is true. I've never had a girl try and pass me off to somebody else. The only conclusion is that they may have thought I wasn't good enough for any of their friends... Or maybe none of their friends were single at the time.

But yes, I'm going to expect respect from now on and not hide who I am.

I'm trying to toe between being an acquaintance and a friend. At this point in my game I think it's better to avoid getting to close to a girl if I'm not sure I can get her. That basically means no more hanging out with chicks more than two to three times that I haven't made a move on.
 

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Well it's not always entirely true. Most girls try to hook their friends up with the "better" of the guy friends. Guys they would normally date themselves but they either have a boyfriend, they failed a **** test, or has more interest in another guy, or whatever it may be. They aren't that dumb. It's kind of like you saying to your bro "Dude, I'm going to hook you up with the hottest girl. Just try her out and tell me what you think." and then you introduce him to a HB5.5.. However, their are girls who just simply want a guy off their backs. Not all girls get self validation from AFC friends, some of them actually find them annoying. (Not saying you were either one.. there could be a number of reasons why you guys only became friends.) Then there is the guy friends who obviously have absolutely no chance with her or ANY of her friends, but they value their friendship so she tries to make it seem like she is hooking him up with her friends and then retorts his failure with "I'm so sorry bestie, maybe she just wasn't the one for you. You will find her someday" or some other bullsh!t. These are the guys that are basically like a gay friend to them.
 
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