You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Nope not at all.phooey73 said:Having the ability to be friends with girls is actually helpful in hooking up. Discuss.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You're alone thereMaxtro said:Nope not at all.
I haven't even kissed any of the girls that were my friends. Also none of those girls have ever introduced me to any girls.
This one is helpful and worth readingScars said:^ That's good Maxtro. Make it very clear at the beginning of the relationship/friendship that you demand respect and always portray your sexuality. Even if she doesn't like you then maybe one of her friends will. The problem lies within oneitis. An AFC will have a girl friend trying to hand him off to get rid of him. While a good guy friend that she has qualified as good "boyfriend material" will generally get her hotter friend. Woman love to play matchmaker! But of course, you should avoid female friendships all together unless you're getting SOMETHING out of it.
This one isn'tExhumed said:You're alone there
I don't even think that is true. I've never had a girl try and pass me off to somebody else. The only conclusion is that they may have thought I wasn't good enough for any of their friends... Or maybe none of their friends were single at the time.An AFC will have a girl friend trying to hand him off to get rid of him