"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
friends with fat girls?
- Thread starter blackwolf
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
but yeah apart from that it's not great walking around with a whale.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
although there is the small amount of fatties who are used as "designmated ugly fat friends" by groups of hotties....
PlayCold
Don Juan
But it's true, you better stick with the not fat ones. Women look at who you hang out with and if they fit with the "type" you have around you.kingsam said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
zekko
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Hot girls love to take "designated ugly fat friends" to the club because then all the guys attention will be on themselves.
Obviously, it's better "social proof" to be friends with a hot girl than an ugly girl. But if you really like spending time with this one, I would never not talk to someone because of the way they look. That strikes me as pretty shallow and immature.
The real danger here is a typical danger in male/female freindships. You say she likes you. It's common for the lower value person in opposite sex friendships to harbor a secret crush or to want more from the relationship. Are you ready to deal with that?
SandHawk
Master Don Juan
You don't want to be dealing with that sort of sh*t, as they'll constantly c*ckblock you when you're scoring chicks(unless you hook them up with someone else first), they tend to cling onto you, trying to eat as much of your time so you can't get laid. They'll deny it, yet they try to gobble you up and change you, manipulate you, lie to you or about you. Just drop her.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
sooooo true.SandHawk said:
Made the mistake of making friends out of fat girls, cause I'm just a nice guy, and the co*kblocking she initiates when she is around...
Not to be shallow or anything but, just skinny girls in general > cute fat, w/e combination of fat.
Need to be somewhat selective of your friends =/