"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
friends with fat girls?
- Thread starter blackwolf
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
but yeah apart from that it's not great walking around with a whale.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
although there is the small amount of fatties who are used as "designmated ugly fat friends" by groups of hotties....
PlayCold
Don Juan
But it's true, you better stick with the not fat ones. Women look at who you hang out with and if they fit with the "type" you have around you.kingsam said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
zekko
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Hot girls love to take "designated ugly fat friends" to the club because then all the guys attention will be on themselves.
Obviously, it's better "social proof" to be friends with a hot girl than an ugly girl. But if you really like spending time with this one, I would never not talk to someone because of the way they look. That strikes me as pretty shallow and immature.
The real danger here is a typical danger in male/female freindships. You say she likes you. It's common for the lower value person in opposite sex friendships to harbor a secret crush or to want more from the relationship. Are you ready to deal with that?
SandHawk
Master Don Juan
You don't want to be dealing with that sort of sh*t, as they'll constantly c*ckblock you when you're scoring chicks(unless you hook them up with someone else first), they tend to cling onto you, trying to eat as much of your time so you can't get laid. They'll deny it, yet they try to gobble you up and change you, manipulate you, lie to you or about you. Just drop her.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
sooooo true.SandHawk said:
Made the mistake of making friends out of fat girls, cause I'm just a nice guy, and the co*kblocking she initiates when she is around...
Not to be shallow or anything but, just skinny girls in general > cute fat, w/e combination of fat.
Need to be somewhat selective of your friends =/