Friends with "Benefits"?

[Meisterman]

Is it a waste of time to hang out with a girl who withholds sex, but will get naked around you, cuddle with you, give you full body massages and let you do the same to her. I've only hung out with her a few times. There are "perks" I guess..but to me it just doesn't seem worth it?

Edit: I want to add now it's been 3 nights in a row we hung out each night progressively more sexual but still no sex just nudity massages and a LOT of cuddling. Like I feel like I need to get out of this really quickly. She already said she doesn't want to be any more than friends but she seems to still be sexually teasing me. I think she could just be an attention *****?

 

[marmel75]

That isn't her fault, that is your fault.

 

[Meisterman]

That isn't her fault, that is your fault.

What is my fault? I've tried making moves, I've been sexually forward. She hasn't reciprocated. At what point do I just stop trying?


It seems to me any more effort into sex at this point would be unwanted on her part. Am I wrong?

 

[marmel75]

I've never been in a situation with a woman who is naked with me that I haven't fvcked. Either she isn't comfortable with you, she isn't turned on by you or something else is going on because all you should need to do in the situation is start fingering her while kissing her...slow and gentle at first then harder and harder until its like a jackhammer, and her resistance will fold like a cheap tent from being so horny

 

[devilkingx2]

Is it a waste of time to hang out with a girl who withholds sex, but will get naked around you, cuddle with you, give you full body massages and let you do the same to her. I've only hung out with her a few times. There are "perks" I guess..but to me it just doesn't seem worth it?

Edit: I want to add now it's been 3 nights in a row we hung out each night progressively more sexual but still no sex just nudity massages and a LOT of cuddling. Like I feel like I need to get out of this really quickly. She already said she doesn't want to be any more than friends but she seems to still be sexually teasing me. I think she could just be an attention *****?

i'm struggling to imagine a girl who'll get naked in bed with you but won't have sex with you

either she's nuts or your escalation is terrible

 

[Serenity]

Stop this now, sounds like you're her gay friend.

If something doesn't feel worth it there should be no doubt about what to do.

I would just tell her straight up that I was looking for sex, that this isn't gonna work. If she still wouldn't want to do it I'd just leave.

Getting naked in front of a guy who obviously wants to have sex and then deny him that satisfaction is just evil. If she knows you want it she's being mean, do not accept that sh!t. Don't be her weak minded gay friend. For all I know she could be playing a sick game to see how well she can control and walk all over a mans sexuality, again that's fvcked up.

 

[Meisterman]

i'm struggling to imagine a girl who'll get naked in bed with you but won't have sex with you

either she's nuts or your escalation is terrible

The former. Yeah she might be nuts..:-O

 

[mrgoodstuff]

i'm struggling to imagine a girl who'll get naked in bed with you but won't have sex with you

either she's nuts or your escalation is terrible

It'll **** up your sex drive. See if y'all can at least do oral on each other.

 

[TheGambino]

The f8ck that's the weirdest sh1t I ever heared, not even joking... this is weird and f8cked up at the same time but easy to solve.

Okay listen buddy.

Invite her over, do whatever you was doing before too get her undressed. I would say, sit next to her, grab her hand and touch her back, shoulder, neck whatever and undress her yourself.

When you cuddle with her just look at her tits, get horney and just like Marmel says, massage her tits and finger her slowly and gentle then put 2 fingers, bend them and put your thumb on her **** and shake your hands like a jackhammer. She will get wet as f8ck then you pull your d1ck out and put it inside her while making out.

That's all you have to do, the next time she will come to your house and undress you within 2 minutes to f8ck you.

I never ever had a girl naked in my room without f8cking her or she would tell me shes not ready to f8ck because her asd kicks in but she would make out with me and f8ck me the next date.

AT LEAST make out with her asap!

If she doesn't want to make out or keeps rejecting your tries (dont even think about this, she doesnt undress around you for no reason, she wants to f8ck) just act aloof and uninterested and ignore her for a bit but don't be an as$hole, dont be rude or anything just act like she isn't really there and watch tv or so untill she eiter makes out with you, graves for attention or grabbs her sh1t and leaves the house. If she does second move on!

 

[devilkingx2]

The former. Yeah she might be nuts..:-O

just do the normal strategy, escalate until she stops you firmly, then disengage and turn on disney XD (hope phineas and ferb is on), after a bit try again until you either get laid or get firmly stopped, watch more cartoons, etc.

when you run out of patience go home/kick her out of your home/go to sleep, if you don't get laid then go ghost and don't talk to her until she's begging

 

[Meisterman]

I've never been in a situation with a woman who is naked with me that I haven't fvcked. Either she isn't comfortable with you, she isn't turned on by you or something else is going on because all you should need to do in the situation is start fingering her while kissing her...slow and gentle at first then harder and harder until its like a jackhammer, and her resistance will fold like a cheap tent from being so horny

When I try to kiss her she says she just got a tongue ring and it hurts and she doesn't wanna kiss.

just do the normal strategy, escalate until she stops you firmly, then disengage and turn on disney XD (hope phineas and ferb is on), after a bit try again until you either get laid or get firmly stopped, watch more cartoons, etc.

when you run out of patience go home/kick her out of your home/go to sleep, if you don't get laid then go ghost and don't talk to her until she's begging

Yeah the problem is she doesn't want to kiss because of a new "tongue ring" and as far as being naked it's mostly just the top and part of her pants down for ass rubs. Not great fingering position.

 

[devilkingx2]

When I try to kiss her she says she just got a tongue ring and it hurts and she doesn't wanna kiss.

Yeah the problem is she doesn't want to kiss because of a new "tongue ring" and as far as being naked it's mostly just the top and part of her pants down for ass rubs. Not great fingering position.

well that's pretty much GG, flimsy excuses mean that it's time to:

when you run out of patience go home/kick her out of your home/go to sleep, if you don't get laid then go ghost and don't talk to her until she's begging

 

[Fireballs]

Stop this now, sounds like you're her gay friend.

If something doesn't feel worth it there should be no doubt about what to do.

I would just tell her straight up that I was looking for sex, that this isn't gonna work. If she still wouldn't want to do it I'd just leave.

Getting naked in front of a guy who obviously wants to have sex and then deny him that satisfaction is just evil. If she knows you want it she's being mean, do not accept that sh!t. Don't be her weak minded gay friend. For all I know she could be playing a sick game to see how well she can control and walk all over a mans sexuality, again that's fvcked up.

This OP ^ .. you're her gay best friend

 

[Meisterman]

She's still hitting me up. Bull**** on being her gay best friend. I've seen her 3 times. I'm either smashing next time or bailing forever. If not and worse case scenario I bail and spin another plate. I got this **** guys

 

[Serenity]

She's still hitting me up. Bull**** on being her gay best friend. I've seen her 3 times. I'm either smashing next time or bailing forever. If not and worse case scenario I bail and spin another plate. I got this **** guys

Good plan, stick with it.

 

[blind_one]

She's still hitting me up. Bull**** on being her gay best friend. I've seen her 3 times. I'm either smashing next time or bailing forever. If not and worse case scenario I bail and spin another plate. I got this **** guys

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