What's the best way to tell chicks that I just want a FWB type of relationship. I'm talking to a few girls but I don't want to lead them on into a relationship. I want to be honest of what I want but not sure of the way of doing so. How do you guys handle a situation like this?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Friends with Benefits
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Çharismo
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First off you don't bring up anything.
Nothing about relationships or being friends with benefits.
You continue to escalate as in keep going until you are bangin the girls.
It's that simple.
NO need to have discussions about any of this.
Let them bring it up.
Stay emotionally detached and don't invest too much too soon unless the chick is worth it. :flowers:
Assume that every chick you bang is going to be friends with benefits until unless proven other wise.
Nothing about relationships or being friends with benefits.
You continue to escalate as in keep going until you are bangin the girls.
It's that simple.
NO need to have discussions about any of this.
Let them bring it up.
Stay emotionally detached and don't invest too much too soon unless the chick is worth it. :flowers:
Assume that every chick you bang is going to be friends with benefits until unless proven other wise.
marmel75
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Basically once you bang them, you either invite yourself over to their place or invite them over to your place and pretty much rail them every time...no dates, no girlfriend/boyfriend activites, etc...nothing needs to be said, she knows what way you are trying to take the relationship.
She will let you know if she is down with that or not...usually you can get away with it 3 or 4 times if she isn't with it and then she will be give you the whole "I really like you" speech and basically tell you she wants you as more than just a sex partner...
Then 1 of 3 things can happen:
1) You can try to ignore what she said and just keep doing it, which in my experience doesn't work that often if she wants a relationship with you...she will just start flaking on you unless you offer to take her out somewhere
2) You can get in a relationship with her and carry on as before but with the additional relationship activities added to the mix
3) You can drop her and tell her you like things the way they are and if that's not something she's OK with then things will have to end.
Unfortunately for me, every time I've ended up just wanting a FWB they always told me they wanted more within the first 4 or 5 "dates", and I had to drop them because I could tell they were going to start getting clingy which I didn't want...
She will let you know if she is down with that or not...usually you can get away with it 3 or 4 times if she isn't with it and then she will be give you the whole "I really like you" speech and basically tell you she wants you as more than just a sex partner...
Then 1 of 3 things can happen:
1) You can try to ignore what she said and just keep doing it, which in my experience doesn't work that often if she wants a relationship with you...she will just start flaking on you unless you offer to take her out somewhere
2) You can get in a relationship with her and carry on as before but with the additional relationship activities added to the mix
3) You can drop her and tell her you like things the way they are and if that's not something she's OK with then things will have to end.
Unfortunately for me, every time I've ended up just wanting a FWB they always told me they wanted more within the first 4 or 5 "dates", and I had to drop them because I could tell they were going to start getting clingy which I didn't want...
Krueg
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Just be honest, I wouldnt feel right leading them on if they genuinely like you. It could also be a plus if you do tell em' straight up. If they werent really interested they will leave, the one(s) who like you will stay and try to win you over.
Good Luck!
Good Luck!