"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Friends trying to get me to go out with this girl

stuka1939

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I hung out with a couple of friends of mine a couple of weeks ago and my one friend brought his friends from work.

It turns out one of the girls thinks I am hot. Unfortunately, I did not find this girl attractive. She was not a pig, but very average looking face, average body, big boned, kind of a husky voice, not the most feminine.

I am tall, full head of hair, fit, decent looking face and I KNOW I can do better because I see short, balding and pudgy guys with hot girls.


My friends are giving me a hard time because I won't go out with her.

They are saying:

"Beggars can't be choosers"

"What do you have to lose"

"She is nice, what is the problem"

I am 30 and she is a divorced 31 year old.


I might just go out with her, just to shut my friends up. A quick drink at the bar and that is it.

What do you think?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Gustav Yavo

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Just ignore your friends, if you feel you can do better then go for those women. Your not out to please your friends, your out to please yourself.
 

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stuka1939 said:
I hung out with a couple of friends of mine a couple of weeks ago and my one friend brought his friends from work.

It turns out one of the girls thinks I am hot. Unfortunately, I did not find this girl attractive. She was not a pig, but very average looking face, average body, big boned, kind of a husky voice, not the most feminine.

I am tall, full head of hair, fit, decent looking face and I KNOW I can do better because I see short, balding and pudgy guys with hot girls.


My friends are giving me a hard time because I won't go out with her.

They are saying:

"Beggars can't be choosers"

"What do you have to lose"

"She is nice, what is the problem"

I am 30 and she is a divorced 31 year old.


I might just go out with her, just to shut my friends up. A quick drink at the bar and that is it.

What do you think?
I've had "friends" recently try to set me up with a 40 year old woman! All I could say to them is she's got a cool dog that can open Christmas presents. She definitely wanted to jump my bones the first night of meeting her, but she lives too far away at 70 miles for up to be having a relationship. She's from the 80s and still has that 80s personality that came before my time. I simply don't see us as being on the same wavelength other than just purely sex. I'd just be using her.
 

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Gustav Yavo said:
Just ignore your friends, if you feel you can do better then go for those women. Your not out to please your friends, your out to please yourself.
Yeah, I am certainly no GQ model (I am about a 6.5 to a 7) and I think that warrants a girl who is atleast cute.
 

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Poonani Maker said:
I've had "friends" recently try to set me up with a 40 year old woman! All I could say to them is she's got a cool dog that can open Christmas presents. She definitely wanted to jump my bones the first night of meeting her, but she lives too far away at 70 miles for up to be having a relationship. She's from the 80s and still has that 80s personality that came before my time. I simply don't see us as being on the same wavelength other than just purely sex. I'd just be using her.

I hear you. I don't like playing with peoples emotions. If I feel the girl is into me more than vice versa, I jump ship.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Deacon

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i wouldnt waste my time (or her time)
I second that.

Your friends won't try to set you up with an average-looking broad if they know you have an active dating life. If you want to avoid stupid sh*t like this, just take girls out once a week.
 

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As much as you enjoy your friends and their oppinions, seldom do they actually know how to match people up. More times than not the only thing that the two people have in common is that they both are single. :rolleyes:
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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I remember I tried to hook my friend up with a girl. I said she was fun, nice, smart and ect... She was average looking and a little big boned like the girl you're friends are trying to hook you up with. Anyways, the point was he turned down my offer. Later down the road he wished he would of took her on some dates. He found out her personality is what he looks for in a woman and when she gets dressed up she don't look bad. But, she found a man and now, he is kicking himself...

So, my point is you cant always judge a book by it's cover. Why would your friends hook you up with someone that wouldn't be worth your time? I'd go out and have a drink or two with her and get to know her. You may like her after all. If you don't like her after your first date tell her your not interested. What are you really gonna loose anyway if you do?
 
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