"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Friends trying to get me to go out with this girl

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I hung out with a couple of friends of mine a couple of weeks ago and my one friend brought his friends from work.

It turns out one of the girls thinks I am hot. Unfortunately, I did not find this girl attractive. She was not a pig, but very average looking face, average body, big boned, kind of a husky voice, not the most feminine.

I am tall, full head of hair, fit, decent looking face and I KNOW I can do better because I see short, balding and pudgy guys with hot girls.


My friends are giving me a hard time because I won't go out with her.

They are saying:

"Beggars can't be choosers"

"What do you have to lose"

"She is nice, what is the problem"

I am 30 and she is a divorced 31 year old.


I might just go out with her, just to shut my friends up. A quick drink at the bar and that is it.

What do you think?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Gustav Yavo

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Just ignore your friends, if you feel you can do better then go for those women. Your not out to please your friends, your out to please yourself.
 

Poonani Maker

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stuka1939 said:
I hung out with a couple of friends of mine a couple of weeks ago and my one friend brought his friends from work.

It turns out one of the girls thinks I am hot. Unfortunately, I did not find this girl attractive. She was not a pig, but very average looking face, average body, big boned, kind of a husky voice, not the most feminine.

I am tall, full head of hair, fit, decent looking face and I KNOW I can do better because I see short, balding and pudgy guys with hot girls.


My friends are giving me a hard time because I won't go out with her.

They are saying:

"Beggars can't be choosers"

"What do you have to lose"

"She is nice, what is the problem"

I am 30 and she is a divorced 31 year old.


I might just go out with her, just to shut my friends up. A quick drink at the bar and that is it.

What do you think?
I've had "friends" recently try to set me up with a 40 year old woman! All I could say to them is she's got a cool dog that can open Christmas presents. She definitely wanted to jump my bones the first night of meeting her, but she lives too far away at 70 miles for up to be having a relationship. She's from the 80s and still has that 80s personality that came before my time. I simply don't see us as being on the same wavelength other than just purely sex. I'd just be using her.
 

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Gustav Yavo said:
Just ignore your friends, if you feel you can do better then go for those women. Your not out to please your friends, your out to please yourself.
Yeah, I am certainly no GQ model (I am about a 6.5 to a 7) and I think that warrants a girl who is atleast cute.
 

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Poonani Maker said:
I've had "friends" recently try to set me up with a 40 year old woman! All I could say to them is she's got a cool dog that can open Christmas presents. She definitely wanted to jump my bones the first night of meeting her, but she lives too far away at 70 miles for up to be having a relationship. She's from the 80s and still has that 80s personality that came before my time. I simply don't see us as being on the same wavelength other than just purely sex. I'd just be using her.

I hear you. I don't like playing with peoples emotions. If I feel the girl is into me more than vice versa, I jump ship.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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i wouldnt waste my time (or her time)
I second that.

Your friends won't try to set you up with an average-looking broad if they know you have an active dating life. If you want to avoid stupid sh*t like this, just take girls out once a week.
 

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As much as you enjoy your friends and their oppinions, seldom do they actually know how to match people up. More times than not the only thing that the two people have in common is that they both are single. :rolleyes:
 

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I remember I tried to hook my friend up with a girl. I said she was fun, nice, smart and ect... She was average looking and a little big boned like the girl you're friends are trying to hook you up with. Anyways, the point was he turned down my offer. Later down the road he wished he would of took her on some dates. He found out her personality is what he looks for in a woman and when she gets dressed up she don't look bad. But, she found a man and now, he is kicking himself...

So, my point is you cant always judge a book by it's cover. Why would your friends hook you up with someone that wouldn't be worth your time? I'd go out and have a drink or two with her and get to know her. You may like her after all. If you don't like her after your first date tell her your not interested. What are you really gonna loose anyway if you do?
 
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