Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Friends to non friends cause your a dj...

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Why is it that some friends start acting distant and being jerks when you start getting mad pvssy? Is it cause their jealous? I don't get it. When, I first got this don juan stuff down i was fvcking girls left and right.

You know I would have one girl who I was fvck buddys with and I brought her and her girlfriends to a party with my friends. I figured hey; I'll bring some single women over for my friends. At first it was cool. Then, I switched up girls I was banging and kept bringn different girls over.

So, after awhile I settled down with the girlfriend I have now. Then, it was like they started seeing me less. Would use me to get alcohol for them and not invite me to hang out with them. Or I would call them up and say me and my girlfriend are going to a party you should come. and they would say no and other excuses. and other bullsh!t

I said the hell with them after awhile and got new friends who are actually better. But, i just don't get why they turned on me. It's not that I was spending time with women more than them.

I dunno just something I was thinking about...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Scars

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I've lost quite a few friends over some stupid *****es. It sucks. I'm starting to weed them out slowly though. Pretty much my only true friends that I really get along with are natural born DJs. I have the best wingmen in the world. We do so much **** for each other, and we always have each others back. And the most important thing is they understand the rules of the game. They know what you're doing and why you do some of the things you do, when say just a regular dude might be **** blocking without even realizing it.

In your case, I think your buddies were just jealous. It seems like they got a little taste of ***** when you kept bringing those girls over. So of course they're gonna love you. But when you got a gf, they probably stopped getting *****.. atleast from the help of you and they felt bitter about it. But honestly, do you really want friends who just use you for things? I'm sure you're much better off without them, so cheer up man.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Yeah, its not that big of a deal to me. But, these were good friends starting back in high school. Which, was around the time I was learning all of this. I think it's stupid friends will get butt hurt over something like this.
 

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You have obviously changed and you are no longer same person - this will affect the dynamics of the relationships. Some of my oldest friends, I am still friends with, others I am friendly with, and some I don't even know where they are anymore. People change and this affects all types of relationship.
 
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