"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It seems like the more I have improved myself and my life the more a lot of my friends have started to resent me. Now that I believe in myself, I am doing better in school, started working out, have goals for the future, and am a lot happier.

But this seems to have upset my friends. They try to say Im arrogant and I think Im better then other people. I dont think I am or even give off that impression. The people saying this arent really doing anything with their lives, so I think the fact that they see me trying to make something of myself gives them a bad impression.

I was wondering if anyone else has had friends who have acted like this. I dont know if I should continue to be friends with them knowing they resent me, or just find some new people with a similar outlook on life. I know I need to meet some new people regardless of my other friends.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sometimes you need to come the realization that your friends aren't happy with you cause they are insecure. It's not good to have friends who not only look down upon you improving yourself, but also friends who don't want to improve their own person.

While you don't want to break ties with your friends (obviously), try and meet some new ones. You'd be suprised how new people can change your whole perspective.
 
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Its seems a bit odd that they are saying you are arrogant and you are doing nothing to provoke this. How is that possible? Are you bragging about yourself in front of them or something to that effect? Are you giving them advice when they haven't asked for any?

Anyway... if your new personality doesn't match theirs then you need to find new friends on the same wavelength as you - you can't make people like you.
 
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The only thing arrogant I do is take college seriously. I know thats my future so I make it a top priority.

They dont go to college or have any real future plans.
 
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i think your friends are scared that you are going off bettering yourself and dont have time for them anymore.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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