"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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friends or more than friends?

mojo16

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ok i text hb 8 or 9 quite a lot. lately she has been saying some things in her texts which make me wonder is she likes me....

last night we were texting until i went out, at which point she texted last, expected a reply but didnt get one. about 2 hours later i got the following text from her:

ok im probably the biggest loser texting you without you having replied but, im going to bed and wanted to text you before then. Um, thanks for being the bestest friend anyone could have. haha i know you only asked if i was okay but i dont normally get so upset and i probably would have gone crazy if you weren't there to talk to!
and pretty much you dont even have to try, you just make me go from being in the ****test mood to being happy again! so thankyou! goodnight :)

i replied to her the next day saying yes, you are a loser haha and sorry i didnt reply because i was out. then i mocked her for being head over heels for me etc. (she replied 'you wish jelly fish')

anyway, does she have feelings for me or is it possible she just thinks of us as really good friends? i really cannot tell :S she always calls me 'friend' which confuses me!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Ease

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She doesnt like you.

Your her girlfriend.

Why you would want this is beyond me. This type of 'your the best friend ever' is very emasculating to me.

When your just 'friends' with a girl, you still can never help her with her problems. You must always be an assh*le or else you will become a girlfriend. Being the assh*le she flirts with when she is bored is 10 times better than being the boy-girlfriend that she gets AFC attention from.
 

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From what I can see, she is responding well to your teasing. Just keep it up. And remember - KINO!

P.S. Dont let the 'friend' thing put you off. Just play along.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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f283000

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This is what you get for
1. Having female friends
2. Not pushing the envelope from the beginning so you don't end up confusing her and ending up in the friend zone

If you like a girl push the envelope from the beginning. Don't try to be her friend you need to try to become her lover. If she has no interest she will let you know and you can move on. You have let this keep going on for so long that she would probably push you away as a lover to keep you as a friend. This is what happens like 98% of the time and it's your fault for letting it get this way.

Now you are one of her girlfriends who makes her feel good about herself. Is this what you want out of women? Or do you want to be f__ them? You need to make up your mind. Stop being friends to girls and instead make your intentions known early on.
 

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My first impression was that you've been friendzoned and that still may be true. But as a couple of others have said just keep teasing her and see where it goes. Raise up your banter and throw in some innuendo. See how she responds to it.

Don't worry about if she likes you or not. If you amplify what you are doing, she will make it clear to you.
 

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if you keep txtin her and not take her out on a real date, you're going to dock your ship in her friendzone harbor. forever.
 

Ice882

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\its FZ with a tiny bit of wiggle room.
 

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start being a little less available, and when you do interface.. be a bit of an a$$hole. these gents are right, you are tettering on falling into the FZ abyss
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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if you hang out at the same places, get drunk together. sure fire way of knowing.
 

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Ease said:
She doesnt like you.

Your her girlfriend.
Yeah,I'm with Ease on this one. The simple fact that you even have to wonder about this means that YOU haven't been upfront and clear about you having an interest in her.




Also,that thing she said about how you how she would go crazy if you weren't there "to talk to" suggest a girlfriend relationship between you two.




And what she said about how she goes from a sh!tty mood to being happy again after speaking to you.....no. She ain't gonna give that up.




That'll come in handy for when she has a boyfriend who mistreats her or causes her some sort of emotional issue. She can run to you and you can make it all better again for her.



Ease said:
When your just 'friends' with a girl, you still can never help her with her problems. You must always be an assh*le or else you will become a girlfriend. Being the assh*le she flirts with when she is bored is 10 times better than being the boy-girlfriend that she gets AFC attention from.
Unfortunately....this is true as well.
 
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