"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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friends online for 6 years... what would happen if we met?

tony-montana

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just wondering, not that i plan on this happening.

but i've been friends with this girl for like six years over the internet. we have spoke on the phone several times. we never ended up meeting but in a couple weeks i am moving to another state and it just so happens so is she. to the same one as me.. in jan 2009. she won't know anyone over there and i think it looks as if we would end up meeting sometime in the future.

has anyone been in this situation where you meet someone you've known online for years? what happens in person? is it possible that seeing me in the flesh would spark an attraction? cause it is very different from online. am i seriously stuck in the friends book or would meeting in real life save me from that since we've never met before?

p.s.: yes we've seen each others pictures and webcam, etc.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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pua1989

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i have many friends ive met over the internet (computers are my hobby). i have met many of them for the "first time" at computer conventions, etc. generally, people that you get to know over the internet really talk and act like they normally do in person. i think you will have a good first meeting with this girl. good luck man.
 

tony-montana

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nice reply chinwaggler... i learnt much from you. the force is strong with you :p
 

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chinwaggler said:
......................pua1989 = nerd
no ass-hole
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Groovy

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It wouldn't change a thing. If fact, she will probably be friendly and optimistic about the interaction. (If not, I can't say I would bother anyway. :D ).

Enjoy it! :D

EDIT: didn't read the part about the attraction thing. Keep in mind: If you don't expect nothing, you can't be dissapointed!

So don't expect NOTHING and go in for the FUN. You'll see if you two get along and THEN, MAYBE you can have these thoughts. You're already loosing points with that mindset, and you didn't even talk to her yet! :D
 

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Wow. The definition of friend has really diluted.

A friend is: a person you know well and regard with affection and trust.
An aquaintance is: personal knowledge or information about someone

Yes I got these definitions from Google.


You seem to really care what some random person on the internet thinks about you. You're already thinking about a potential attraction, love at first sight, and yadda yadda.

Dude. wtf.

1. You don't know this chick.
2. All you know of this chick, is filtered information she gave you.

No one can tell you what this interaction is going to be like. Things happen randomly, and every experience is different. But we can take a guess.

Here's mine: You will go AFC on her. You already have.
 

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isnt that a bit harsh Noob hes known her for six years and you telling him to just stop talking to her.. dont think hes in it for the sex by the way, not everyone is a horny bastard like you :)
 

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What if it turns out to be a dude.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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what would happen if we met?
She will be even hotter in person, you two will hit it off like nobodies business, she will enhance your life to extremes never envisioned by you. She also is great in bed, The two of you will get married in 2011, have 3 kids and she will keep her figure, you both will die 5 months apart in your 70's, you of course will pass first due to heart problems.

Btw dont buy that waterfront property, it will be useless down the track due to erosion caused by loamy sand soil.
 

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You need to stop using msn as a crutch to meeting people. You need to get off your ass and meet people in person. It's been 6 years, don't you think you would've met by now if you REALLY wanted to?
 
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