"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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just wondering, not that i plan on this happening.

but i've been friends with this girl for like six years over the internet. we have spoke on the phone several times. we never ended up meeting but in a couple weeks i am moving to another state and it just so happens so is she. to the same one as me.. in jan 2009. she won't know anyone over there and i think it looks as if we would end up meeting sometime in the future.

has anyone been in this situation where you meet someone you've known online for years? what happens in person? is it possible that seeing me in the flesh would spark an attraction? cause it is very different from online. am i seriously stuck in the friends book or would meeting in real life save me from that since we've never met before?

p.s.: yes we've seen each others pictures and webcam, etc.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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i have many friends ive met over the internet (computers are my hobby). i have met many of them for the "first time" at computer conventions, etc. generally, people that you get to know over the internet really talk and act like they normally do in person. i think you will have a good first meeting with this girl. good luck man.
 
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tony-montana

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nice reply chinwaggler... i learnt much from you. the force is strong with you :p
 
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chinwaggler said:
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no ass-hole
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It wouldn't change a thing. If fact, she will probably be friendly and optimistic about the interaction. (If not, I can't say I would bother anyway. :D ).

Enjoy it! :D

EDIT: didn't read the part about the attraction thing. Keep in mind: If you don't expect nothing, you can't be dissapointed!

So don't expect NOTHING and go in for the FUN. You'll see if you two get along and THEN, MAYBE you can have these thoughts. You're already loosing points with that mindset, and you didn't even talk to her yet! :D
 
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Wow. The definition of friend has really diluted.

A friend is: a person you know well and regard with affection and trust.
An aquaintance is: personal knowledge or information about someone

Yes I got these definitions from Google.


You seem to really care what some random person on the internet thinks about you. You're already thinking about a potential attraction, love at first sight, and yadda yadda.

Dude. wtf.

1. You don't know this chick.
2. All you know of this chick, is filtered information she gave you.

No one can tell you what this interaction is going to be like. Things happen randomly, and every experience is different. But we can take a guess.

Here's mine: You will go AFC on her. You already have.
 
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isnt that a bit harsh Noob hes known her for six years and you telling him to just stop talking to her.. dont think hes in it for the sex by the way, not everyone is a horny bastard like you :)
 
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What if it turns out to be a dude.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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She will be even hotter in person, you two will hit it off like nobodies business, she will enhance your life to extremes never envisioned by you. She also is great in bed, The two of you will get married in 2011, have 3 kids and she will keep her figure, you both will die 5 months apart in your 70's, you of course will pass first due to heart problems.

Btw dont buy that waterfront property, it will be useless down the track due to erosion caused by loamy sand soil.
 
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You need to stop using msn as a crutch to meeting people. You need to get off your ass and meet people in person. It's been 6 years, don't you think you would've met by now if you REALLY wanted to?
 
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