"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Friends bailing out... Advice needed.

kokane

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1. Hello guys. I have spent 6 months working on my inner game and its been yielding some good results. I refer to sarging as hunting. I took two of my friends with me, but all they did was stand 2m away and watched me getting rejected again again and again. No support given. When i an alone, rejection rates dwindle and i meet with amazing success. So i tried to ignore them, but now they keep hinting me to take them with me, but their negativity doesnt really help. My question: You think i would be better off alone or should i just train them to be good wingmen?
2. And then there are some other friends think that I shouldnt have changed 'just for girls' and that using terms like hunting are derogatory. I heard from other friends that they say they cant bring themselves to respect me any more(Major afc, supplicator, feminist kind- see what i have escaped from?). One thing I cant bear is someone not respecting me. And besides that this backbiting. I plan on getting rid of them. Your 2 cents awaited. Thanks.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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horaholic

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Some PU gurus say that when you immerse yourself in the community, you have to find a new circle of friends. I would go to RSDnation and ask this same question. You might get some better replies than here.
 

kraytkiller

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You dont need a guy like that influencing your mindset...
 

kokane

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I am nt influenced by them, its actually that they were gud frnds and i smetimes feel guilty that i am not sharing my knowledge/skill with them. Bt there is a lot of negativity when they are around.
 

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Eagles fly solo. turkeys an chickens scratch around in the dirt together.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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blinkwatt101

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Dude if your friends are negative don't be around them end of story. Forget picking up chicks with them,don't be around them in general.
 

Heman6

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i was in a similar position. this is what you should know...unless your friends are like minded dj's who actually get women you are better off doing it alone. i was very tight with a group of guys in my teens-early 20's. neither of us were were really good with girls which looking back i suspect was one of the reasons why we hung out lol. anyway they were whiners and lazy as **** and would not want to try. when i decided to put in the effort i wasn't successful at first and they would laugh at me and try to bring me down to their level. i'm no pro or anything but over the past few months i started having success and now they all look at me funny and say i'm not cool anymore. they can go **** themselves and i have already told them so, they aren't true friends and what i'm saying is you should ditch yours. they would rather see you miserable then happy, that's not a sign of a true friend. most guys are clueless and can't stand to see others succeed with women, esp. their friends. on the surface it may not seem that way but behind your back it's a good possibility.
 

Warrior74

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I had friends like that...I just don't go out to meet women with them. When we hang out with just have drinks with the boys. They would joke every now and then about me being on the hunt, but it was just jokes...they would never put in the work, how could they be mad at someone who did. Ignore what your friends say, its just the jealousy talking...they will get over it eventually. Just hang with them when your not hunting and don't plan on it, go hunt solo or with other players you know. Different friends for different activities.
 

kokane

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I assume they are just jealous and stuff. Gr8 advice warrior. Different friends for different activities. Gotta try that. Thanks everyone.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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