"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Friendly reminder we have no free will so relax, Sam Harris

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I mean anyone can say that and how could you prove otherwise? Because they could always retort that it was predetermined you would do that.

Sounds like a pretty unwinnable argument
Arguing for absolute determinism is indeed a very hard argument to make compelling to those whose intuition (or own programming ironically enough) cause them to reject being open-minded to the idea.

On the other hand, another argument that is hard to make is one that absolute free will exists. For absolute free will to exist, we would have to have the freedom to act absolutely independent of our genetics and prior conditioning — which we do not. Yes, we can be aware of our conditioning and use that knowledge to attempt to overcome it a lot better than if we were ignorant to it, but it would be false to claim that said genetics & conditioning have absolutely no influence over us once we are aware of it. No matter how analytical and self-aware a person thinks they are, they are still largely governed by spontaneous thoughts and fleeting emotions.

As I said, although I don’t believe free will exists, I live my life as if it does. I actually hold a similar mindset to you @BackInTheGame78, in that I live my life by taking 100% responsibility for my behaviour and results in life. I do my best to overcome any unhelpful or unproductive patterns of thought and behaviour, and have been quite successful in doing so. I also expect others to be able to at least attempt to do the same.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I had a friend call me once saying that the CIA were stalking him, and that they'd infiltrated his family and he needed help.

This was all after he watched some conspiracy theory videos on the pandemic and 5 towers.
Keep in mind we live in Australia and the CIA doesn't operate here.

His also unemployed, at first he was blaming it on racism but now he thinks it's some conspiracy. The real reason he got fired was because he never actually did his work.
 

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I had a friend call me once saying that the CIA were stalking him, and that they'd infiltrated his family and he needed help.

This was all after he watched some conspiracy theory videos on the pandemic and 5 towers.
Keep in mind we live in Australia and the CIA doesn't operate here.

His also unemployed, at first he was blaming it on racism but now he thinks it's some conspiracy. The real reason he got fired was because he never actually did his work.
You are in the wrong thread. You are excused because you have no free will.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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