Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Friendly reminder we have no free will so relax, Sam Harris

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I mean anyone can say that and how could you prove otherwise? Because they could always retort that it was predetermined you would do that.

Sounds like a pretty unwinnable argument
Arguing for absolute determinism is indeed a very hard argument to make compelling to those whose intuition (or own programming ironically enough) cause them to reject being open-minded to the idea.

On the other hand, another argument that is hard to make is one that absolute free will exists. For absolute free will to exist, we would have to have the freedom to act absolutely independent of our genetics and prior conditioning — which we do not. Yes, we can be aware of our conditioning and use that knowledge to attempt to overcome it a lot better than if we were ignorant to it, but it would be false to claim that said genetics & conditioning have absolutely no influence over us once we are aware of it. No matter how analytical and self-aware a person thinks they are, they are still largely governed by spontaneous thoughts and fleeting emotions.

As I said, although I don’t believe free will exists, I live my life as if it does. I actually hold a similar mindset to you @BackInTheGame78, in that I live my life by taking 100% responsibility for my behaviour and results in life. I do my best to overcome any unhelpful or unproductive patterns of thought and behaviour, and have been quite successful in doing so. I also expect others to be able to at least attempt to do the same.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I had a friend call me once saying that the CIA were stalking him, and that they'd infiltrated his family and he needed help.

This was all after he watched some conspiracy theory videos on the pandemic and 5 towers.
Keep in mind we live in Australia and the CIA doesn't operate here.

His also unemployed, at first he was blaming it on racism but now he thinks it's some conspiracy. The real reason he got fired was because he never actually did his work.
 

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I had a friend call me once saying that the CIA were stalking him, and that they'd infiltrated his family and he needed help.

This was all after he watched some conspiracy theory videos on the pandemic and 5 towers.
Keep in mind we live in Australia and the CIA doesn't operate here.

His also unemployed, at first he was blaming it on racism but now he thinks it's some conspiracy. The real reason he got fired was because he never actually did his work.
You are in the wrong thread. You are excused because you have no free will.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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