Friendliest/Least Friendly U.S. State you've been to and why

[Oatmeal31]

Curious on what others' experiences are here. I've personally had much better and friendlier interactions in the South or even red states in general. I live in Chicago, IL and I feel like I'm going crazy because people lack manners. I hate it here.

People don't make eye contact, smile, hold the door for others, greet, wave, you name it, etc. They prefer to pretend you don't exist. I plan on moving away end of year because on this. Beautiful city, ugly people.

Funnily enough, the state right next to IL, Indiana, is FAR friendlier. I've never had a bad interaction whenever I go to visit, oftentimes to go to one of their beaches and happen to stop at any store. Everyone is friendly there, EVERYONE. I came from Florida, which has southern hospitality and stays true to it, aside from parts of South Florida.

I've visited Texas briefly and people were very nice. More southern hospitality.

Not into politics at all but ironically, it seems the blue states are the least tolerant by far. Funny how that works. Just an observation.

What states have you visited that give a run for money in terms of friendliness?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Californians generally suck and tend to be users, narcissists and flakes. People in Virginia were generally friendly (a mix of southern hospitality and east coast realness) when I lived there (Metro DC and Richmond) but it's been a while. Arizonans are generally friendly despite what @SW15 may think, compared to Californians there's a significant difference.

 

[SW15]

I've visited Texas briefly and people were very nice. More southern hospitality.

The smaller towns in Texas have Southern hospitality. The larger cities don't. Dallas is likely the most unfriendly city in Texas and is transplant heavy. The Fort Worth side of Dallas-Fort Worth is somewhat more friendly but not nearly as friendly as the smaller towns.

Arizonans are generally friendly despite what @SW15 may think

Arizona is an interesting place to discuss. Most people living in Arizona didn't spend their formative years in Arizona. There are a lot of transplants to Arizona.

There are plenty of California transplants in Arizona. Those would be more unfriendly people.

When I was in Arizona, I spent time trying to get my penis wet in nightlife venues in Old Town Scottsdale. That's a place where I encountered more unfriendly type behaviors. That's likely the least friendly setting someone could find in Arizona.

In general, Arizona is likely somewhere in the middle of friendly vs. unfriendly.

I live in Chicago, IL and I feel like I'm going crazy because people lack manners. I hate it here.

People don't make eye contact, smile, hold the door for others, greet, wave, you name it, etc. They prefer to pretend you don't exist. I plan on moving away end of year because on this. Beautiful city, ugly people.

Funnily enough, the state right next to IL, Indiana, is FAR friendlier. I've never had a bad interaction whenever I go to visit, oftentimes to go to one of their beaches and happen to stop at any store. Everyone is friendly there, EVERYONE.

I can imagine that being true about Chicagoland. People in Illinois are likely friendlier in the smaller towns. I can imagine Indiana to be friendlier. Indianapolis is likely the least friendly place in Indiana, but likely friendlier than a lot of places.

Californians generally suck and tend to be users, narcissists and flakes.

That's true about the people from Los Angeles' Westside area.

The Bay Area in generally is unfriendly, but with a different vibe than Los Angeles.

I haven't been impressed with the level of friendliness in the San Diego area either.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Hawaii is friendliest and it's not even close.

 

[Mike32ct]

The northeast is generally not friendly. But Rhode Island is the exception.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I’ve been to 40+ states & 3 US territories. Most were pretty friendly. We just got back from Houston TX & they’re super-friendly. As for least friendly: SF Bay Area. Especially SF proper.

 

[SW15]

The northeast is generally not friendly.

This is true. Some of this depends on how the word is defined.

I once heard someone describe the Northeast as kind but not nice. This person said that someone in the Northeast might help someone in a bad situation but be rude about doing so. The same person said Californians might be nice but not kind. They'd be more empathetic towards the person's situation but not actually help someone.

In the Northeast, Maine has a reputation for being hostile to outsiders that move to that state. Maine isn't known for getting many transplants, likely due to the cold and this reputation. Massachusetts has the Masssholes reputation, which comes about from a lack of friendliness.

The fast pace of New York City does create some level of rudeness. However, New York City is one of the few places in the USA where street game is possible on city streets. New York City residents aren't the worst because street game is possible there due to more foot traffic and women being decent enough to be receptive to some approaches on city street and in the subway terminals.

 

[Mike32ct]

This is true. Some of this depends on how the word is defined.

I once heard someone describe the Northeast as kind but not nice. This person said that someone in the Northeast might help someone in a bad situation but be rude about doing so. The same person said Californians might be nice but not kind. They'd be more empathetic towards the person's situation but not actually help someone.

In the Northeast, Maine has a reputation for being hostile to outsiders that move to that state. Maine isn't known for getting many transplants, likely due to the cold and this reputation. Massachusetts has the Masssholes reputation, which comes about from a lack of friendliness.

The fast pace of New York City does create some level of rudeness. However, New York City is one of the few places in the USA where street game is possible on city streets. New York City residents aren't the worst because street game is possible there due to more foot traffic and women being decent enough to be receptive to some approaches on city street and in the subway terminals.

Agreed. Connecticut people, for example, are fairly reserved. They’re generally only friendly to people they already know. To strangers, they are businesslike until they get to know you. But they’re not purposely cold.

NYC is a very different animal. New Yorkers love to talk and can be quite chatty if you catch them at the right time and place and they are open to talking to you. I don’t go to the city anymore, but it was one thing I really liked about it.

 

[SW15]

NYC is a very different animal. New Yorkers love to talk and can be quite chatty if you catch them at the right time and place and they are open to talking to you. I don’t go to the city anymore, but it was one thing I really liked about it.

That's why street approaching can work well in New York City. Some street approaches can result in harsh blowouts in NYC. There's almost no pure street approaching in Dallas.

What you say is also true in a non-sexual setting too.

Connecticut people, for example, are fairly reserved. They’re generally only friendly to people they already know. To strangers, they are businesslike until they get to know you. But they’re not purposely cold.

That's true.

 

[eli77]

South Florida sucks love n Carolina heard about Alabama nothing good