"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Here is how thing normally go for me: I meet a girl and we have a conversation. It seems that things are going well. I get her to laugh. I ask about herself, all that jazz. But, in the end, I always get the "good guy/ friend" speach.

I've been thinking and have some ideas:

1) I am 'to available' and just come off as being desperate instead of being nice.
2) I just take too long?
3)I'm not the most handsome guy. So, I am trying to use my wit and goofiness to my adavatage. Maybe this is the wrong way of looking at things?

Any tips would be great! Thanks!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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MegaJim said:
Here is how thing normally go for me: I meet a girl and we have a conversation. It seems that things are going well. I get her to laugh. I ask about herself, all that jazz. But, in the end, I always get the "good guy/ friend" speach.

Well in all that conversation and getting her to laugh......

Did you flirt?
Did you tease?
Did you compliment her appearance?

And MOST IMPORTANTLY......did you ASK HER OUT?


It's A.C.S....Attraction,Comfort,Seduction. You got the comfort,but where the sexual spark at?


Dude,the friendzone IS EASY to avoid. Just ask a girl out in the first moments of meeting her,that's it.


It's just that simple.
 

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as an expert in friendszone i must say that you are slow, igetit! is correct

don't talk to her, get her number and then vanish
the more you talk before getting a date,the further you risk of getting into this "mess"
friendszone=== was too slow
 

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Thanks for all of the help! I have read your articles (they really helped) and have adjusted accordingly. I just have one question, i'm not nessicarly looking just for sex. I am looking for a long lasting relationship and don;t want to come off as a horn dog. But, I can still use these same techniques, right?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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you are always in control of what type of relationship you want to have. if the girl you pickup does not meet your criteria you have the choice to cut her off. remember you are the chooser, not her. and yes these techniques will work for what you are looking for.
 
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