"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Friend with benefits, but should I make her my gf?

Maeisgood

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I have had this friend with benefits for 4 months or so, but its getting increasingly awkward. We are sort of like a couple, but I think she seems more sure about me than I am about her which seems like the way it usually goes with me, but I don't see any other girl I'm currently into. I do think that one day I do want another official girlfriend, but I'm not 100% about her. I feel like I could possibly meet a girl I like better, but if I ask this one to be my gf and I find another one I feel more alike, what should I do?

In short, I often feel attracted to a girl, but never feel she is enough like me for a relationship to work.

Being an AFC sucks, but being a 100 year-old "DJ" by not ever having truly loved is worse and more pathetic, so please don't simply answer with, "Don't get too attached" or something like that. This is a situation I'm commonly in, but have never been sure how to deal with.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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jdjd

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how about we start this off by age? i always look at that first..
 

trickz

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Making her your girlfriend isn't going to make a difference just make things more complicated if you decide to leave her.
If you're worried that she might find another guy whos more in to her than you than i guess you should go for it but otherwise id stay clear of making anything official.
 
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