"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Friend with benefits, but should I make her my gf?

Maeisgood

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I have had this friend with benefits for 4 months or so, but its getting increasingly awkward. We are sort of like a couple, but I think she seems more sure about me than I am about her which seems like the way it usually goes with me, but I don't see any other girl I'm currently into. I do think that one day I do want another official girlfriend, but I'm not 100% about her. I feel like I could possibly meet a girl I like better, but if I ask this one to be my gf and I find another one I feel more alike, what should I do?

In short, I often feel attracted to a girl, but never feel she is enough like me for a relationship to work.

Being an AFC sucks, but being a 100 year-old "DJ" by not ever having truly loved is worse and more pathetic, so please don't simply answer with, "Don't get too attached" or something like that. This is a situation I'm commonly in, but have never been sure how to deal with.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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jdjd

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how about we start this off by age? i always look at that first..
 

trickz

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Making her your girlfriend isn't going to make a difference just make things more complicated if you decide to leave her.
If you're worried that she might find another guy whos more in to her than you than i guess you should go for it but otherwise id stay clear of making anything official.
 
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