All I ever hear on this forum is "girls don't like nice guys", you have to be a bad boy. Can someone tell me why my friend is pulling in mad ass? He always has a smile on his face, never says a bad word about anybody. He's average looking and never acts full of himself. It's almost as if he's using being nice to his advantage. Girls seem so comfortable around him. And he's always laughing too. He doesn't use neg hits either. His g/f is smoking hot. I finally asked him how he does it, and his response was simply, "act like she's your girlfriend."
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Friend is AFC, gets laid like crazy
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
How do you know? Do you have girly vision? Maybe chicks think by this looks that he´s the sultan of twOt himself.Snowman23 said:
And why is it that he´s an AFC? Don´t see the evidence. Because he´s nice to everybody? You can be alpha and in complete control without ever putting anybody down in the open and without being full or yourself. Actually, that IS full blown alphaness.
I guess he´s good looking to chicks as well as pyssing confidence all over the place. All it takes.
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Sounds like a DJ.Snowman23 said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
"hey... i said HEY! lookit me! I bring other dudes down to make me look better! And I don't smile AT ALL because i lose respect and authority! I'm full of myself because i have a massive penis, okay? Oh and, when I degrade u, I expect u to become attracted to me, okay b1tch?! Just wait while i make fun of this other guy to make me look waaayy cool."
You really think that is a DJ?
You really think that is a DJ?
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ElStud said:
Nice catch!Grand Wizzard Alamar
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Sounds like a good guy NOT a nice guy.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Snow Plowman
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Who says you can't be nice?
So longs your not giving your power away and not supplicating you'll be fine. If part of his personality is to do certain things it won't really affect anything. Also what you just mentioned has nothing to do with him being nice, he just can overall vibe with chicks and its obvious there having fun if they are around him. So yea.
Also stop getting caught up in this nice guy vs Jerks BS
So longs your not giving your power away and not supplicating you'll be fine. If part of his personality is to do certain things it won't really affect anything. Also what you just mentioned has nothing to do with him being nice, he just can overall vibe with chicks and its obvious there having fun if they are around him. So yea.
Also stop getting caught up in this nice guy vs Jerks BS
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Even if he is AFC if he has a nice body or money chicks will flock to him.
Some of the ugliest SOB's you can ever imagine get chicks just because they have a nice body.
I've heard women say this before that they go after guys with a really nice body even if the guy's face is ugly.
Sometimes being in shape with a good attitude is all you need.
Some of the ugliest SOB's you can ever imagine get chicks just because they have a nice body.
I've heard women say this before that they go after guys with a really nice body even if the guy's face is ugly.
Sometimes being in shape with a good attitude is all you need.
Monkey
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Nice guy + no self respect = AFC
Nice guy + self respect = gold!
Nice guy + self respect = gold!
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2 things:
1. He is a natural, born a lucky bastard.
2. He is good at networking. He is using the women he has now (including his "gf") as social proof to get more women, and then with those women he finds more women, etc. etc. He is in the "club" now (remember the Seinfeld episode with George Costanza showing women the picture of a hot woman he claimed to be his late wife?)
That's all there is to it.
1. He is a natural, born a lucky bastard.
2. He is good at networking. He is using the women he has now (including his "gf") as social proof to get more women, and then with those women he finds more women, etc. etc. He is in the "club" now (remember the Seinfeld episode with George Costanza showing women the picture of a hot woman he claimed to be his late wife?)
That's all there is to it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
AFC (Nice Guy) =phony, not himself, manipulative, does things just to get a reaction from a woman, is afraid of not having her.
DJ (or at least assh0le type)=phony, not himself, manipulative, does things just to get a reaction from a woman, is afraid of not having her.
Normal, confident "good guy"= Genuine, himself, not manipulative (except for the good natured push-pull, fun seduction stuff that is sexual and healthy) does things because he wants to and it makes him feel good, wants to keep her and treats her well, but is able to do this without being her puppy dog or a push-over.
The more we focus on other people and how they act (he's AFC, I'm this, he's DJ, I'm that) the further away we get from who we are. All these tools we use are simply ways to get RID of the phoniness, and to become our genuine selves that have just been covered up by BS.
Get up in the morning with the feeling that you love life, love other people, and that no one and nothing can bring you down becuase your own internal self-love is so strong, and you'll find you can do whatever you want and people will flock to you, even if you may APPEAR to be breaking the rules by others.
Rules are meant to be broken. People who are genuine, don't need rules. They make their own.
DJ (or at least assh0le type)=phony, not himself, manipulative, does things just to get a reaction from a woman, is afraid of not having her.
Normal, confident "good guy"= Genuine, himself, not manipulative (except for the good natured push-pull, fun seduction stuff that is sexual and healthy) does things because he wants to and it makes him feel good, wants to keep her and treats her well, but is able to do this without being her puppy dog or a push-over.
The more we focus on other people and how they act (he's AFC, I'm this, he's DJ, I'm that) the further away we get from who we are. All these tools we use are simply ways to get RID of the phoniness, and to become our genuine selves that have just been covered up by BS.
Get up in the morning with the feeling that you love life, love other people, and that no one and nothing can bring you down becuase your own internal self-love is so strong, and you'll find you can do whatever you want and people will flock to you, even if you may APPEAR to be breaking the rules by others.
Rules are meant to be broken. People who are genuine, don't need rules. They make their own.
This is hilarious. I know guys that are "badasses" and guys that most of you would consider "nice guys" that get a lot of tail. The only difference is that the "nice guys" I know score a lot higher quality girls than the "badasses" I know.
This guy that you're describing sounds like you're describing one of my good friends, who's one of the best with women I've ever seen. He's always got a big smile on his face, he's funny, he never puts other people down in a serious way or talks bad about anyone, and he always builds other people up around him. Not just girls, but just people in general love this guy.
This guy that you're describing sounds like you're describing one of my good friends, who's one of the best with women I've ever seen. He's always got a big smile on his face, he's funny, he never puts other people down in a serious way or talks bad about anyone, and he always builds other people up around him. Not just girls, but just people in general love this guy.
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Snowman23 said:
Being nice and being an AFC are not necessarily the same thing.
Being nice while not being a "doormat" is a good combination.
The problem is that most nice guy's are validation seeking doormats and are AFC's
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.