"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Got a phone call from a good friend/co-worker today that left me at a loss of words initially. Back drop, it was an 12 year HS relationship that developed to marriage and a newborn that's 5 months old. Nice guy, "good" wife for whatever thats worth. The phone call started off with he's getting divorced. After some talking with him, seems "they" attempted to work on it for 5 or so months and she just said she was done. I have an understanding of why things resulted but never once mentioned it. He's completely unaware. There was an agreement to not see anyone else during the divorce which pains me. He's still talking about eventually getting back together through time. My problem rests in how do I help him in the best way possible? Do I present reality or guide?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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logicallefty

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Sounds similar to what I went through with my first wife. She got postpartum depression after our daughter was born and it was over. Your friend needs to come to this site and start reading. And the hell with not seeing anybody else once she has said she wants a divorce he is a free man. If a marriage agreement isn't strong enough to keep the woman with the man for better or for worse then why in the hell should it matter now? This is a classic scenario. I see many of my buddies going through this in the future.
 

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Dear Cross Fitter,
Just talk to the poor fellow...His married friends in the main will shun him,just provide a "Wailing Wall" for him!
 
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