"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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crossfitter

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Got a phone call from a good friend/co-worker today that left me at a loss of words initially. Back drop, it was an 12 year HS relationship that developed to marriage and a newborn that's 5 months old. Nice guy, "good" wife for whatever thats worth. The phone call started off with he's getting divorced. After some talking with him, seems "they" attempted to work on it for 5 or so months and she just said she was done. I have an understanding of why things resulted but never once mentioned it. He's completely unaware. There was an agreement to not see anyone else during the divorce which pains me. He's still talking about eventually getting back together through time. My problem rests in how do I help him in the best way possible? Do I present reality or guide?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sounds similar to what I went through with my first wife. She got postpartum depression after our daughter was born and it was over. Your friend needs to come to this site and start reading. And the hell with not seeing anybody else once she has said she wants a divorce he is a free man. If a marriage agreement isn't strong enough to keep the woman with the man for better or for worse then why in the hell should it matter now? This is a classic scenario. I see many of my buddies going through this in the future.
 

Scaramouche

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Dear Cross Fitter,
Just talk to the poor fellow...His married friends in the main will shun him,just provide a "Wailing Wall" for him!
 
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