"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Friend in CRISIS! Seeking DJ assistance!

j8snx1

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Okay fellas, I'm currently a teacher for my buddy Jason, my soon to be wingman if he can get his act together!

J's been having his eyes on this cute asian girl, but he can never bring himself to APPROACH her because he gives me these excuses:

1) It'll be AWKWARD!
2) She's with her friends...
3) I want to wait for the right time.

AIM CONVO: (censored so you DJ's dont get all insane on my buddy!)
S--------: well i cant really do it after class
S--------: cuz she is usu. with her group of friends
S--------: and i dont really want to interupt
S--------: fortunately i feel confident i can handle the rest ;-)
j 8 S n X 1: what good is that if u dont get urself to overcome the first obstacle?
S--------: "first obstacle"?
j 8 S n X 1: approach?
S--------: wat's the first obstacle?
S--------: i can approach her
S--------: the thing is i dont know when
S--------: i dont have a good fitting time
j 8 S n X 1: why do u hope for a "perfect time" when u can create one?
S--------: dude thats my point i cant create one.

I've been pushing him to use the C&F, Kino, etc etc. but he won't LISTEN TO ME!!! He already analyzes the badsides of the DJ methods without even experimenting with them! ARGH!
I tell him that it's only awkward since you're trying to do this with a lame mindset.
I tell him, "So what if shes with her friends? Acknowledge all of them and just start a conversation and earn the right to step into the circle of friends."
I tell him, "Why wait for the right time when you can MAKE one?"

It's been going on for quite a long time now, and could use some backup. (I admit, I'm still learning the ways of the DJ, so there are things that I couldn't help him with either!)

What must I say or do to show him that there's really nothing to it?

(PS: No, this is not me. There are other Jason's in this world!!)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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oakraiderz2

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1. Lead by example- If he sees you talk to a girl, he'll feel more confident to do so

2. GO WITH HIM TO TALK TO THE GIRL- Talk to her friends and take the pressure off of him
 

frisco

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Maybe you should make hime practice on another girl, seems like hes infatuated with this girl and already has siked himself into thinking everything will go wrong while talking to her. Maybe start him out early in the day get him to talk to another chick get his confidence up then later he can persue this girl he likes and it wont be as hard

and like oakraider said go with him to talk to the girls groups are pretty intemidaiting once u start out and remind him that its not like he has to get her number right then and there just atleast have some rapport so he could do it in the future without being so ackward
 
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