"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Friend - Girlfriend?

Mokwaja

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I met this amazing girl about 3 weeks ago, and we have gone on several dates which went very well.

She came out of a bad relationship and is not quite ready for commitment. I told her that's fine, she can take all the time she needs.

Now my issue is that this is a bit easier said than done. I thought that it would be ok just to be friends for now, but as it turns out I can't stop thinking about her and I want to be more than friends.
And if I tell her this, I think I might scare her off, and I really don't want to lose her.

How do one deal with a situation like this?

Mokwaja
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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squirrels

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Just because she's not ready for commitment doesn't mean there's no potential for physical (sexual) intimacy.

Desdinova's right...look into other women as well, but see if this one, although she's not ready for commitment, might be ready for intercourse. ;)
 

whoami

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I thought that it would be ok just to be friends for now, but as it turns out I can't stop thinking about her and I want to be more than friends.
seems like you are spending more time at home??I dunno If I m out in field I don't think about anything else :eek:

WhoAmI
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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