"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Friend Circles - Rules of Thumb

va2000

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 11, 2017
Messages
50
Reaction score
10
I was just thinking about the utility of personal rules of thumb about friendships, attention, jealousy, etc. because it's clearly critical to maintain a healthy balance depending on your type of frame.

I am personally an LTR type who recognizes the value of plates but doesn't intend to take it to a physical level (at least in my current dread meter). But I also notice that plating en masse or without regard to boundaries could be detrimental. The first rules I thought would be

-girls she knew first, treat as family
-girls you knew first, plate away

This would go for in person as well as social media friendship. I think ruling out some options (without her seeing my self delineated boundary) at least is a small price to pay for letting her see me as above whatever drama she might already be involved in, letting her keep a decent support circle, not getting a Pavlov hunch that bringing hot girls around just means risking my shifting all attention to them. Is this already on the stone tablets somewhere? Holes in the theory?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

spred

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 13, 2017
Messages
195
Reaction score
148
Age
48
I think breaking down girls in two categories (your acquaintances and hers) fits the "we are together but have options" mindset.
Gaming her friends might bring drama and collision of "unverses".
 
Top