va2000
Don Juan
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I was just thinking about the utility of personal rules of thumb about friendships, attention, jealousy, etc. because it's clearly critical to maintain a healthy balance depending on your type of frame.
I am personally an LTR type who recognizes the value of plates but doesn't intend to take it to a physical level (at least in my current dread meter). But I also notice that plating en masse or without regard to boundaries could be detrimental. The first rules I thought would be
-girls she knew first, treat as family
-girls you knew first, plate away
This would go for in person as well as social media friendship. I think ruling out some options (without her seeing my self delineated boundary) at least is a small price to pay for letting her see me as above whatever drama she might already be involved in, letting her keep a decent support circle, not getting a Pavlov hunch that bringing hot girls around just means risking my shifting all attention to them. Is this already on the stone tablets somewhere? Holes in the theory?
I am personally an LTR type who recognizes the value of plates but doesn't intend to take it to a physical level (at least in my current dread meter). But I also notice that plating en masse or without regard to boundaries could be detrimental. The first rules I thought would be
-girls she knew first, treat as family
-girls you knew first, plate away
This would go for in person as well as social media friendship. I think ruling out some options (without her seeing my self delineated boundary) at least is a small price to pay for letting her see me as above whatever drama she might already be involved in, letting her keep a decent support circle, not getting a Pavlov hunch that bringing hot girls around just means risking my shifting all attention to them. Is this already on the stone tablets somewhere? Holes in the theory?