"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Freshman boy and a Junior Girl

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So yesterday i was just chilling with my friends pregaming/ ponging because the girls in my grade were at some lacrosse party. After we played, we walked to a girls house where the some of the girls lacrosse were. After playing flip cup, watching the basketball game, etc, people from different grades started to show up and things were getting fun.

Then i saw a girl that didnt come to my school enter through the door. Now im usually not that interested in girls at the first sight but when i saw this girl i was like :O. She was cute/ hot and seemed like a nice girl (I'll refer to her as GIRL). Everytime i had a little glance at her, it seemed like she was looking at me nd then turning away. Maybe i was buzzed but i swear she was looking at me. It seemed like she was interested in me but i was still confused. I didnt really know how to start a conversation because she was with another junior from my school (i'll just call her BRINGER) who brought her, so i just tried to stay a little close to her.

After around an hour later when it was getting late,my friend asked the BRINGER for a piece of gum as both of them were going up the stairs. She refused but the GIRL told us that she had gum and walked back down to give us a piece. Anyways to end this quickly my friend and i had a little chat just asking whether she knew people we knew from her school and stuff. I got her first name too.

Idk y but i just started to have a likeing for her so i searched her up on Facebook and sent a message like "hey your the one that gave me the gum right? it saved my life...."
she respond "haha yess im glad!" and accpeted my friend request.

Now i reaaally want to start a conversation but i dont know how i should......start it, if she would care that im a freshman, and if she is single or not!
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Mr.Freestyler19

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send her a message on fb and say something like...hey you are that girl that couldn't stop looking at me at the party. its risky but taking risks is part of this...
 

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im just worried that if ppl in my school (my school is small and has about 900 kids - grades 7-12) find out they'd think im a creeper and my friends since they saw her too and they think shes hot....

btw im not looking at her like my friends do by saying that "they'd tap tat" and stuff.....she seemed really nice and i want to get to know her better

one more thing....is the junior and freshman thing wierd and idk if she's SINGLE?!?!?!? :O
 

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Nah, my friend is a sophomore and he dated a senior girl. I'd give her at least an 8. Just do it bro
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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@EvilAgenda

yea i sorta want to talk to her straight up too...like get to know her and stuff
but i dont have her number and like i said b4 she doesnt go to my school.
so facebooks the only option.....
 

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Don't be limited by this facebook way of thinking. Think about how greatest don juans of the 1800's did things.

Befriend one of her best friends (the one who isn't nearly as good looking, but who has a boyfriend). She will introduce you to your target.

OR

Happen to be "passing by" her school on your motorcycle as she is walking out with her friends. (If you have a motorcycle, a leather jacket, and some black shades, that image is an instant wetness for high school girls).

OR

Literally call her school and sound like you are her parent. Tell the school that blah blah has a doctor's appointment and chaosxd1 who happens to be "her brother" will come to pick her up 30 minutes before the school is out. <-- you have to be absolutely sure she remembers checking you out.

Patience is one of the greatest weapons a don juan has. An idiot will rush, without a plan or a strategy, and will fail. And right now, you are leaning towards rushing in without a plan or a strategy. You only see facebook as your only way of communicating with her. You aren't thinking outside the box. You are going to do what hundreds of guys in high school are doing. You will crush and you will burn.
 

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EvilAgenda said:
Don't be limited by this facebook way of thinking. Think about how greatest don juans of the 1800's did things.

Befriend one of her best friends (the one who isn't nearly as good looking, but who has a boyfriend). She will introduce you to your target.

OR

Happen to be "passing by" her school on your motorcycle as she is walking out with her friends. (If you have a motorcycle, a leather jacket, and some black shades, that image is an instant wetness for high school girls).

OR

Literally call her school and sound like you are her parent. Tell the school that blah blah has a doctor's appointment and chaosxd1 who happens to be "her brother" will come to pick her up 30 minutes before the school is out. <-- you have to be absolutely sure she remembers checking you out.

Patience is one of the greatest weapons a don juan has. An idiot will rush, without a plan or a strategy, and will fail. And right now, you are leaning towards rushing in without a plan or a strategy. You only see facebook as your only way of communicating with her. You aren't thinking outside the box. You are going to do what hundreds of guys in high school are doing. You will crush and you will burn.

im only 15.....i dont have a car....-.-
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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should i formspring her first just to ask if shes single or not...dont want to invade her privacy and make myslef look like a creep...??
 

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chaosxd1 said:
So yesterday i was just chilling with my friends pregaming/ ponging because the girls in my grade were at some lacrosse party. After we played, we walked to a girls house where the some of the girls lacrosse were. After playing flip cup, watching the basketball game, etc, people from different grades started to show up and things were getting fun.

Then i saw a girl that didnt come to my school enter through the door. Now im usually not that interested in girls at the first sight but when i saw this girl i was like :O. She was cute/ hot and seemed like a nice girl (I'll refer to her as GIRL). Everytime i had a little glance at her, it seemed like she was looking at me nd then turning away. Maybe i was buzzed but i swear she was looking at me. It seemed like she was interested in me but i was still confused. I didnt really know how to start a conversation because she was with another junior from my school (i'll just call her BRINGER) who brought her, so i just tried to stay a little close to her.

After around an hour later when it was getting late,my friend asked the BRINGER for a piece of gum as both of them were going up the stairs. She refused but the GIRL told us that she had gum and walked back down to give us a piece. Anyways to end this quickly my friend and i had a little chat just asking whether she knew people we knew from her school and stuff. I got her first name too.

Idk y but i just started to have a likeing for her so i searched her up on Facebook and sent a message like "hey your the one that gave me the gum right? it saved my life...."
she respond "haha yess im glad!" and accpeted my friend request.

Now i reaaally want to start a conversation but i dont know how i should......start it, if she would care that im a freshman, and if she is single or not!
14 years old and drinking.....talk about a boy trying to do what men do...
 
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