"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Freshly Single... Now what?

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Alright, last night I came accross this site and started to read some stuff, and definately learned allot of stuff that i didn't know, but now I am trying to figure out how I can use the newly learned strategys to my daily life. Let me give you guys a little insight on what has happened and where i stand right now.

Two weeks ago me and my girl friend broke up after being together for nearly 1 1/2 years. At first i was heartbroken, but then I realized this is my chance to have the fun in my life I never had before. I am a very shy guy when it comes to talking to girls, even though my job requires me too. I sell cell phones for a living, and I'm damn good at it too. But I have noticed that is the only thing I can talk about to a girl and not studder or lock up which i tend to do on other subjects. Yet not every situation allows me to start a conversation about cell phones which kinda shuts me down on my game. Also another problem of mine is breaking the ice between me and the girl I am talking to.

There is a question i would like to ask you guys, how do you start a conversation with a girl that you do not know and just happen to see in the mall or on the street? What do you say? I wouldn't even know to start.

I am excited to learn these new techniques because there is a tanning bed right next door to my store, and we're sepperated by a glass wall, so every day I see these beautiful girls walkin by, but have no clue how to holla at them...

I would greatly appreciate it if you guys could give me some pointers without flamming me... thanks in advance
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Welcome. :)

I just got dumped too. Here's something that you and I should read from begining to end:

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/

Read all of it.
This is basically what the entire site is based upon. Good luck. :)
 
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I liked one DJ's post here....start of with the line "do I know you"...thats seems a very inviting for conversation....but knock off the cell phone bable....try to verse yourself in daily events...fashion...comment on the gerl herself...clothing,eyes, overall appearance....and the DJ bible does work!
 
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