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French Kissing. I dont always Like it. WEIRD ??

NeverFear

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I dont always like to tongue with a girlfriend.

She senses this.

Anything i can say to her to explain
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jus_LikeCandy

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That is a bad thing, I think. I had an ex that I couldn't tongue for nothing. We were together for 2 years. Eventually we figured out that me not being able to kiss him made a huge impact on our relationship. It said alot that I couldn't share something some intimate with the person I was supposed to care for. You can guess the outcome. We realized we weren't right together and split up.
 

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I know what you meen man. It doesn't do anything for me other then gross me out.... It's kinda ok when we are fvcking, and we are both into it, but i hate it when the chicks sticks it right in right away......

I also keep my eyes SLIGHTLY OPEN. It feels better, (can't explain it)
 

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Who cares...get over it. If it bothers you that much, give her the boots.
 

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Originally posted by spider_007
I know what you meen man. It doesn't do anything for me other then gross me out.... It's kinda ok when we are fvcking, and we are both into it, but i hate it when the chicks sticks it right in right away......

I also keep my eyes SLIGHTLY OPEN. It feels better, (can't explain it)
When you NEXT these chicks that gross you out by frenching, pass them my way. I don't mind it at all.:D
 

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You got to make French Kissing fun man!, what you are doing is just sticking your wet tounge and it bounces and twirl around hers, it has not rythem.

If you ever see the movie Face/Off, John Travolta got the right idea when he told the flight attended: "see my tounge?? Suck on it!!" - you then stick out your tounge and she will suck on it like she would your c0ck. That should turn you on.
 

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Duno , never tried it , but i just think kissing is kissing , either way she should be happy you would think ...
 

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A lot of people put too much emphasis of having to have your tongue down some chick's throat. I was fortunate to be taught by a woman how to kiss, and how to be good at it, WITHOUT using your tongue. She actually made fun of me after the first time I tried to kiss her because I tried to get my tongue in there too quickly.

Considering your lips are ten times more sensitive than your tongue, you can actually achieve better results without using your tongue at all. Honestly, I enjoy kissing without tongue more than I do with. If she can't stand it, well, then you're not doing things right.
 

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Yeah make it fun: suck, lick, bite...do whatever the fvck you want to make it fun.
 

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Originally posted by Skweints
Considering your lips are ten times more sensitive than your tongue, you can actually achieve better results without using your tongue at all. Honestly, I enjoy kissing without tongue more than I do with. If she can't stand it, well, then you're not doing things right.
I am big on kissing and have nexted all women who can't do this well. I have been grossed out by tongue action a few times when the chick kept her tongue real hard and pushed it deep inside my mouth. Major turnoff for both men and women I assume.

I have full lips that women always compliment me on. I use them at lot when I kiss. Women like to use their lips when kissing, so suck and nibble on them. They are very sensitive. Kissing should always start with the lips, softer to harder, unless she is totally horny. Then you just follow her pace and mirror her. If a woman has very thin lips, tongues are absolutely required. Swirling and sucking on a tongue is fun because each person gets to work on the others tongue. It does foreshadow her sucking on your c*ck and thus creates great anticipation for oral sex.

My approach is lips first, tongues second. If you're turned off by using your tongue at all, you should think about the above and try it. You are missing out.
 

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My current girl uses her tongue WAY too much and I don't like it. On our first kiss, she stuck it in straight away.

She always has her mouth wide open so I can barely kiss her properly. Last night I joked (semi seriously), "I bet you can't kiss with your mouth closed for more than 2 seconds"

So I finally got her to kiss properly, which was nice, but then she opens her mouth wide again and shoves the tongue in :(

I need to teach her but I don't know how to go about it. She's 23...she really should know by now dammmit!
 

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Haha... mine was the same... though I guess her age was her excuse.

Was just like... 'dammit, put that thing away for a minute woman!' :p

Playing follow the leader is always fun. Just suggested taking it slow... taking turns with tongues.... letting me explore first, treating her like a bad baby if she messes up, etc.

They think by default that they cant get a simple thing like kissing wrong, and get taken aback when someone steps in and points it out, and teaches.
 

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One way to get a girl to kiss you properly is tell her you'd want to kiss very soft and very slow. Tell her to play this game with you where you pretend that you just met when tongues and open mouths were not allowed. Give her a kiss with only your lips and make it real gentle. If she has trouble, tell her to kiss you like she is blowing you a kiss with her lips extended. If she jumps back down your throat, tell her that the slower "lips only" kisses are fun at first and this turns you on more. Don't be afraid to tell her what you want, but do it in a playful non critical way. She'll get the hint.
 

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I had the same problem with my x and my current girl (opening mouth too much when kissing) I fixed the problem like this: When we kissed I always have my hands on or around her jaw/cheeks. I just used my thumb to gently close her mouth some, and I continued to do this until she got the picture non-verbally. This eliminated any 'wierd' comments or feelings. It worked with both chicks...
 

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I love me some good tounge tag! I love frenching girls but only with girls who know how to kiss properly. I had this one girl who I swear tried to block my air passage with her tounge and kill me right there on the spot...I think I felt her reaching for my wallet in the process!!!:eek:
 

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Even if you guys don't enjoy the tongue action, at least i hope you acknowledge the fact that when a girl manages to block your air passage with her tongue, it means she's got some skillz...for later on:yes:
 

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Originally posted by flyinshark
Even if you guys don't enjoy the tongue action, at least i hope you acknowledge the fact that when a girl manages to block your air passage with her tongue, it means she's got some skillz...for later on:yes:
Well I guess she could take random guys into dark passage ways, choke them with her toung and we take their wallets...my god it's genious!:up:

I'm gonna be rich!!!!!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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