"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Freezing out? the girl I love

AGuyInLove

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I met this really cool chick and we clicked instantly. I haven't felt this way for anyone before in such a short period of time. We spent almost everyday together for a month over the holidays, and we were both experiencing a lot of stress from outside sources that at that time were not under our control. She started exhibiting this weird jealousy streak, which I know is natural if you like someone, but this went to a higher level. She was also starting to freak me out with her questioning of whether I was into marriage (not with her per se, although that was talked about). I've been married before which she found out early in our dating. I know that I don't want to marry at this moment, but in a few years when I am ready to settle, it is something I would consider. I have told her this several times, yet she still questions it.

I recently D&D'd her, or rather, suggested we take a step back from the relationship and gave her advice of what she needs to do for herself, and told her I needed to take care of myself. I don't think she is taking well to this. Did I do the right thing?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think you should get more girls in the rotation. You don't have to be F-ing them just hangin out. 5 girls would be a good start. And don't worry about this girl, you should do whatever is best for you!!!!!!!!!!
 

blinkwatt

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Just change the subject when she brings it up. Just respond with "Married! You know how hard it is to tie down a wild stallion!"
 
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