"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Free Stuff vs Free Time

Desdinova

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 15, 2004
Messages
11,680
Reaction score
4,876
I'm going to propose a scenario here. If you were in a situation where money wasn't a major factoring issue, what would you choose?

1) Free Stuff.
You get an unlimited supply of free items (clothing, appliances, etc) regardless of whether you need them or not. You have the option to sell the items you don't want to make extra money. You still need to have a regular job and deal with all your free items. Free time isn't always easy to come by for your hobbies or relaxing.

2) Free Time
Your money has to pay for items you need or want, so your overall spare cash is reduced. However, you have every single day of your life to do whatever you want. You can indulge in your existing hobbies and take up new ones if you like, but your budget for buying both necessities and supplies for your hobbies is very limited.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

Read more...

corrector

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 12, 2009
Messages
10,401
Reaction score
4,069
Money is always a factoring issue. I have all the streaming services but little to no time to watch anything. I bought movies that came out as soon as they were digitally released and only managed to watch the first 20-45 min and watch those same movies pop up on the streaming services I am paying monthly for. This is what happens when you have allot of stuff but not enough time.

There are probably a few great movies I am itching to see but have no time. Like it being on a watchlist is a vague promise it will eventually be watched. In practise, 99% of the movies that I do end up watching are because their licensing agreement are about to expire and they are about to be removed and I cant find it is being adopted by another streaming service.

Welcome to the nightmare of having no time to enjoyna hobby where you have too much stuff and options.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Mertz09

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 11, 2024
Messages
289
Reaction score
163
Location
Houston Tx.
In the movie "Gone With The Wind" there is a sundial clock at the Wilkes Plantation that has a quote written on it that reads "Do Not Squander Time, That Is The Stuff Life Is Made Of"

So yeah, Time. Absolutely!
Stuff never last, Time is everlasting.
 

Deep Dish

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 25, 2002
Messages
2,191
Reaction score
175
Free time. Time is our only true currency.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Kotaix

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 29, 2019
Messages
2,234
Reaction score
2,821
Age
48
What is the price limit on free stuff?

I have little use for things, but I wouldn't mind a free 60 foot yacht.
 
Top