"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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FREE Q&A With Speer =----> August Edition

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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BongDuy said:
what are some very simply, yet effect, kino moves you can make when you first meet a girl you're interested in or dating?
Here are some simple Kino routines....

Spin Test
Examples:
1. Let me see your hand.
2. Let me see you other hand.
3. Ok, so do a little spin.
4. Now you’ve locked in and stolen her place.

Sister Test
Example:
1. Oh your so cute just like my little sister
2. Oh, you’re so cute. Come here, and hug her.

Arm in Arm
Example:
1. “Let me see you arm.”
2. Put her arm in your arm.
3. Pat her and tell her “That’s all you get”

Kino Test
Squeeze her hand
If she squeezes your hand back. That’s an IOI. Reward her with an IOI.
If she doesn’t. That’s an IOD. Do not reward. Give her an IOD.
You can figure out your where the interest is.

Tension Test
Put your hand on her shoulder and feel her shoulder.
Say “That’s interesting”
Here let me see your hands, put them around your shoulders.
Put your hands around her lower back.
If you feel resistance then roll off. “That’s all you get”


TV Test
Take her right hand in your right hand.
Then take her left hand and put in your left hand.
Spin her into you.
Say, “Lets say we’ve been together for like 8 months and I come home from work and you come home from the spa.”
“What show would we be watching?’
Let her answer, then say, “Show is over” and push her off.


Mystery’s Kiss Close
Shh…. you talk too much. Would you like to kiss me?
1. Yes (Kiss Her)
2. No (I didn’t say you could, you just that look in your eye.
3. I don’t know / maybe (say “lets find out”)
4. Not here (I don’t know)

Styles Kiss Close
Hand on arm that’s all you get.
Lean in and smell her,
“Oh ****, I’m trying not to kiss you. I’m not even in the headspace. Roll off.
If her arm comes back, smell her again, and start smelling her again and just start kissing her.

Speer’s Kiss Close
Ask your target “Do you like biting or kissing better?”
Move her hair back.
Tell her “This is the bite”
Bite her softly neck.
Tell her “This is the kiss’
Kiss her softly on her neck
Then kiss her on the lips
 

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Hey Speer, I have trouble keeping interest levels up after approaching. Do you have any advice for keeping interest levels high after opening a set?
 

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I'm not really familiar with your stuff BUT I see lifestyle award in your sig...

So how do you go about building that lifestyle? How do you manage all the people? What would you say that makes your "Circle" unique?

Right now I'm currently building the lifestyle that I want by meeting the type of people that I want to be surrounding me in my overall life. For the most part I'm having problems with all the different types of categories I put into my phone an just overall FOLLOWINGUP with everyone because before it was tough just keeping up with a few girls that I really liked. Now I'm trying to manage tons of chicks.

So overall how you handle all these lifestyle things to make everything more organized and manageable. Even getting people to come out seems to be alot of work, but either way trail and error...
 
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The Eurasian said:
Hey Speer, I have trouble keeping interest levels up after approaching. Do you have any advice for keeping interest levels high after opening a set?
In order to keep interest levels high you can use buying temperature, storytelling or emotional connection spikes.

Are you using this elements in your conversations?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

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Hey Speer,I have a question for you.

Can you get out of the friendzone?

I'm not in it,I'm just curious to know if it's possible.

I've seen thread after thread on the forum of a guy being in the friendzone asking about how to turn the situation around,and I ALWAYS say it's a done deal,and it can't be repaired. I always say the friendzone is a one-way street to a dead end with no exits or U-turns.

And until I see evidence to the contrary,I'll continue to believe this way.

Now when I say "friendzone",I mean when you laugh and joke and play around with a girl like one of her girlfriends,you're being completely non-sexual,talking and discussing her emotional problems,and listening to her talk how a guy she likes is cheating on her or mistreating her in some way,and you've been around her interacting like this for like a year or more.

The only way I've heard to remedy the situation is to remove yourself from her life for an extended period of time,like 6 months to a year,then come back a different person. However,I've always advised against this because I don't think any woman is worth going through all that.

So with the type of "friendzone" I described,is it possible to get out of it,or is it over?
 

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Igetit! said:
Hey Speer,I have a question for you.

Can you get out of the friendzone?

I'm not in it,I'm just curious to know if it's possible.

I've seen thread after thread on the forum of a guy being in the friendzone asking about how to turn the situation around,and I ALWAYS say it's a done deal,and it can't be repaired. I always say the friendzone is a one-way street to a dead end with no exits or U-turns.

And until I see evidence to the contrary,I'll continue to believe this way.

Now when I say "friendzone",I mean when you laugh and joke and play around with a girl like one of her girlfriends,you're being completely non-sexual,talking and discussing her emotional problems,and listening to her talk how a guy she likes is cheating on her or mistreating her in some way,and you've been around her interacting like this for like a year or more.

The only way I've heard to remedy the situation is to remove yourself from her life for an extended period of time,like 6 months to a year,then come back a different person. However,I've always advised against this because I don't think any woman is worth going through all that.

So with the type of "friendzone" I described,is it possible to get out of it,or is it over?
Well first off if you haven't even tried to sexualize things I would start. You dont even know if you are in the friend zone until you try and she states lets just be friends.

Second you could easily use a jealousy plot line to get a girl attracted to you if she is a friend. Most of the times girls that are your friends do not see you as a potential suitor for one reason or another. Being with a girl infront of them and building a jealousy plot line will help make your "friend" realize you are an attractive guy.

If non of this work a freeze out for about a month should do the trick.

Lastly its not up to anyone but yourself. If this girl is worth that to you then she is worth it and if she is not worth it to you then you have your answer.

Forget what anyone else says.
 

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Snow Plowman said:
I'm not really familiar with your stuff BUT I see lifestyle award in your sig...

So how do you go about building that lifestyle? How do you manage all the people? What would you say that makes your "Circle" unique?

Right now I'm currently building the lifestyle that I want by meeting the type of people that I want to be surrounding me in my overall life. For the most part I'm having problems with all the different types of categories I put into my phone an just overall FOLLOWINGUP with everyone because before it was tough just keeping up with a few girls that I really liked. Now I'm trying to manage tons of chicks.

So overall how you handle all these lifestyle things to make everything more organized and manageable. Even getting people to come out seems to be alot of work, but either way trail and error...
Here are some quick tips about organizing your lifestyle...

1. Figure out daily events, or venues to go to. This means have something to do every single day.
2. Connect with you social circle daily through myspace, facebook, text, phone, email or any other means.
3. Continuously weed out the unhealthy people in your social circle.
4. Meet your social circle's friends. This will allow you to maximize your own social circle.
5. Meet the "scene" at the places you frequent. In every club, event, or venue there is always the "in scene" these are the people that continuously go to this places. Get to know them, what days they go, what else is going on.
6. Meet and befriend the waitresses, bartenders, waiters & waitresses, managers, owners, bouncers, ect.. at the venues you go to.

By doing this basics you will start cultivating your lifestyle and social circle. Ofcurse the more advanced Lifestyle Model I teach can only be learned in my training programs but this is a great start.

PS
In the future please follow the Q&A Rules listed at the beginning of this thread.

Hope this helps you,
 

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Hope this thread helped everyone.

This months Q&A is now closed.

Thanks for the support and talk soon,
 
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