That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Here are some simple Kino routines....BongDuy said:what are some very simply, yet effect, kino moves you can make when you first meet a girl you're interested in or dating?
In order to keep interest levels high you can use buying temperature, storytelling or emotional connection spikes.The Eurasian said:Hey Speer, I have trouble keeping interest levels up after approaching. Do you have any advice for keeping interest levels high after opening a set?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well first off if you haven't even tried to sexualize things I would start. You dont even know if you are in the friend zone until you try and she states lets just be friends.Igetit! said:Hey Speer,I have a question for you.
Can you get out of the friendzone?
I'm not in it,I'm just curious to know if it's possible.
I've seen thread after thread on the forum of a guy being in the friendzone asking about how to turn the situation around,and I ALWAYS say it's a done deal,and it can't be repaired. I always say the friendzone is a one-way street to a dead end with no exits or U-turns.
And until I see evidence to the contrary,I'll continue to believe this way.
Now when I say "friendzone",I mean when you laugh and joke and play around with a girl like one of her girlfriends,you're being completely non-sexual,talking and discussing her emotional problems,and listening to her talk how a guy she likes is cheating on her or mistreating her in some way,and you've been around her interacting like this for like a year or more.
The only way I've heard to remedy the situation is to remove yourself from her life for an extended period of time,like 6 months to a year,then come back a different person. However,I've always advised against this because I don't think any woman is worth going through all that.
So with the type of "friendzone" I described,is it possible to get out of it,or is it over?
Here are some quick tips about organizing your lifestyle...Snow Plowman said:I'm not really familiar with your stuff BUT I see lifestyle award in your sig...
So how do you go about building that lifestyle? How do you manage all the people? What would you say that makes your "Circle" unique?
Right now I'm currently building the lifestyle that I want by meeting the type of people that I want to be surrounding me in my overall life. For the most part I'm having problems with all the different types of categories I put into my phone an just overall FOLLOWINGUP with everyone because before it was tough just keeping up with a few girls that I really liked. Now I'm trying to manage tons of chicks.
So overall how you handle all these lifestyle things to make everything more organized and manageable. Even getting people to come out seems to be alot of work, but either way trail and error...