"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have a good problem here. Recently a female bartender has been hooking me up with some of my drinks at this local sports bar. Her and I have made a lot of small talk and one day out of the blue she just started leaving a lot of drinks off my tab, making me shots, etc. I haven't overtipped much either. I mean I've thrown an extra couple of bucks but nothing crazy. She is cute but I don't want to ruin this hookup. I haven't asked her for her number or anything. Just keeping that bartender/patron relationship going. I'm just thinking football season is here and I'd like to continue this. However, what do you guys think? Continue getting the mug or get a plate?
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If she's "investing" that means sooner rather then later she'll want "returns" on that investment.

Ask her number or she'll start noticing less then profitable "returns" and then she'll stop "investing".
 
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I have a good problem here. Recently a female bartender has been hooking me up with some of my drinks at this local sports bar. Her and I have made a lot of small talk and one day out of the blue she just started leaving a lot of drinks off my tab, making me shots, etc. I haven't overtipped much either. I mean I've thrown an extra couple of bucks but nothing crazy. She is cute but I don't want to ruin this hookup. I haven't asked her for her number or anything. Just keeping that bartender/patron relationship going. I'm just thinking football season is here and I'd like to continue this. However, what do you guys think? Continue getting the mug or get a plate?
You don't even know that you could "get a plate" out of this. You're just assuming that.
 

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You don't even know that you could "get a plate" out of this. You're just assuming that.
We all have to assume we can get the girl. Thinking negatively will prevent you from getting any girl. Besides, I have a decent track record of getting female bartenders/servers since I used to be in the service industry. I'm able to relate and that's my ice breaker. It works wonders.
 
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