"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Freaking out

Magnatolia

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Hi Guys,

I was totally cool with my goal of attracting/seducing woman when I go on holidays today, but when I woke up this morning I had a million butterflies in my stomach.

I'm completely freaked out at the prospect of chatting to random woman. Do you ever get this and what do you do to get over it?

I jut have this feeling that I won't do anything if I can't get rid of this panic.

Thanks
J
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Bad Ass Canadian

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If the thought of talking to another person, especially a girl freaks you out then i think you should spend your holidays working on your social skills.
Forget talking to girls for the sake of trying to pick them up.

Just become more ******d and social.

Think about how silly being scared to talk to someone is. People are just people.... The pressure and the panic is all in your head.
 

ethnomethodologist

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===****** ******d outwad tiitwad swabwad===

Most people don't care if you're fvcked up, and that is the honest to god truth. They are too self absorbed to care.

Other way to look at it is your freaking cause you think they are going to freak. Just treat them like you treat yourself, if you **** up, do you run off crying, scream at yourself, stay quiet, or laugh?
 

organizedconfusion

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i am not sure if this would be usefull to anyone else, but i used to spite them and when i would talk to them i made them feel as if something was wrong with them , like something fundamenaly wrong with them- and they would feel bad and that made me feel better about myself :D who cares? they're hot and most guys ki$$ their a$$,i'll remind them that they really ain't all that special.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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