"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Freaking out

Magnatolia

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Hi Guys,

I was totally cool with my goal of attracting/seducing woman when I go on holidays today, but when I woke up this morning I had a million butterflies in my stomach.

I'm completely freaked out at the prospect of chatting to random woman. Do you ever get this and what do you do to get over it?

I jut have this feeling that I won't do anything if I can't get rid of this panic.

Thanks
J
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The Bad Ass Canadian

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If the thought of talking to another person, especially a girl freaks you out then i think you should spend your holidays working on your social skills.
Forget talking to girls for the sake of trying to pick them up.

Just become more ******d and social.

Think about how silly being scared to talk to someone is. People are just people.... The pressure and the panic is all in your head.
 

ethnomethodologist

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===****** ******d outwad tiitwad swabwad===

Most people don't care if you're fvcked up, and that is the honest to god truth. They are too self absorbed to care.

Other way to look at it is your freaking cause you think they are going to freak. Just treat them like you treat yourself, if you **** up, do you run off crying, scream at yourself, stay quiet, or laugh?
 

organizedconfusion

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i am not sure if this would be usefull to anyone else, but i used to spite them and when i would talk to them i made them feel as if something was wrong with them , like something fundamenaly wrong with them- and they would feel bad and that made me feel better about myself :D who cares? they're hot and most guys ki$$ their a$$,i'll remind them that they really ain't all that special.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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