"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Frat Guys = DJs?

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Joining a frat will not make you a DJ over night, trust me. Im in a fraternity, but i didnt join becuz of the women. I was friends with a couple of guys that were in one, hung out with them for a while then joined becuz of the brotherhood. I mean dont get me wrong, a lot of my brothers can get girls like its second nature. One of my brothers walked by a girl one night when we were having a party and told her to "get the fvck out of the way" then she followed him to his room and then they screwed, and she was pretty dang hot.

Some have game and some dont. My big brother in my fraternity can pull girls like it aint nothing. And i cant even get a girl to carry on a five min. conversation with me,the furthest ive been with a chick is a hug. But im still hanging in there and practicing. Theres two parties tonight at a couple other frats, maybe somethin will happen. Knock on wood.

But dont join a frat just to get girls. Cuz it really is a lifetime decision. If you get in and realize this aint for you its hard to get out. Oh yeah, pledging is a bytch. Just got done pledging 2 months ago. We didnt have to do too much stupid stuff. The frat im in doesnt see the point in making pledges do the typical "frat" stuff. I mean, we did do some stupid stuff a couple times, but i deffinitely had fun. The most fun that you will never want to have again. Im a brother now, and loving every minute of it, even though im not getting any action from chicks.

Choose the one that fits you, man.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Being in a frat (unless it's a geeky one) gives you increased social status and therefore will most likely help you out with ladies...
That is it right there. The social status thing.


But it doesnt mean youre a DJ cause youre in a frat. There are some dudes I know that happen to be Asian in fraternities, and these guys are AFC so much that men can tell theyre desperate. Women think theyre creepy.
 

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Originally posted by AverageFC
That is it right there. The social status thing.


But it doesnt mean youre a DJ cause youre in a frat. There are some dudes I know that happen to be Asian in fraternities, and these guys are AFC so much that men can tell theyre desperate. Women think theyre creepy.
Oh yeah...bunch of drunken hooligans with decaying moral values. Very high social status indeed.
 

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Being in a frat doesn't make you good at picking up women, if that's what you're asking.

But it does give you a key to enter a world that is filled with parties, booze, and easy girls.
 

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Oh yeah...bunch of drunken hooligans with decaying moral values. Very high social status indeed.
That's an incredible misconception if I ever heard one.
You shouldn't base everything off of "Animal House".

Fraternity = high social status at colleges, same as sorority.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I think it's not "Frat Guys = DJs" but more "Frat Guys = Young, drunk, exploring their newfound freedom girls with lowered inhibitions and the convenience of a bed five feet away"

Alexi
 

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Thank you all for your feedback. Yea, I think social status, and hanging out with some of my buds will make my college experience more enjoyable.
 

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"Frat Guys = Young, drunk, exploring their newfound freedom girls with lowered inhibitions and the convenience of a bed five feet away"
Ok this stereotyping is going a bit far. Fraternity guys don't get girls drunk and and rape them, because thats what rape is.
 

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If you're both drunk, do you rape each other?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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No, only men can legally consent when drunk.
 

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Originally posted by Interpol
Thank you for displaying your ignorance now so we know to disregard your future postings...
Where I'm from, we look down at frats. ALL frats. That's how it is. PERIOD. No 'if's 'and's or 'but's. Just because I'm not were you're from and we look at things differently, it doesn't make me ignorant.

So take your elitist attitude elsewhere. Not everyone shares your opinion. I only stated mine which I have every right to do. I did not impose my beliefs on others by calling them ignorant for disagreeing with my views as you just did.

"Thank you for displaying your ignorance now so we know to disregard your future postings..."

"We"? Speak for yourself. And go ahead, ignore my future posts. See if I care.

Your loss.
 

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haha canadians.

well in america for the most part frats are just a bunch of guys having fun...

there is no reason to diss the whole system because your experiences with it are different.

you should relax and have an open mind.

the type of frat scene really depends on the caliber of school that you goto.

phi kap sig.
we have that on my campus.
 

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Do colleges only have frats? Or do Universities have them too? How does the system work?

BTW, how do you join a frat? I ve read some stuff on Rushes, but for me the problem may be financial, if what I hear is right - frats are very expensive. Am I right?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can range from $75-200 for the pledging fee, and then another $100-300 at the end of the semester for dues.
 

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can we stop saying frat? It's a fraternity.

You don't call your country a c-u-n-t do you?
 

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Originally posted by Disconnect
Do colleges only have frats? Or do Universities have them too? How does the system work?
In the US, "college" and "university" are interchangeable. It is confusing to Canadians, Brits, and just about everyone else.

Regarding fraternities: My friends and I used to be regulars at a house. It was two doors away and had cheap booze and lots of chicks. For the brothers, hooking up with the girls was no problem: when the puck guys were having too much success, kick them out to lower the competiton.
 

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I'm from Canada, and I can tell you that frats aren't nearly as big of a deal as they are in the US. My campus has like 5...and I go to a very large school.
Deal is that most of the guys who join frats are guys who don't believe that they can make friends on their own, so they pay some dough to get the opportunity to do it. It's like honor for the sake of honor, and respect for the sake of respect. It's not real at the beginning.
Same with sororities. Most hot girls in canada do not even go near sororities or fraternities...I guess it has something to do with the free-thinking attitude of most canadians. I find, in my personal experience, that Canadians are more independent, whereas Americans like to be part of a collective consciousness. Frats are not appealing in canada due to the lack of independence. Basically, the attitude is " I ain't payin 400 bucks to make friends and have to follow arbitrary orders"
 

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Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
Where I'm from, we look down at frats. ALL frats. That's how it is. PERIOD. No 'if's 'and's or 'but's. Just because I'm not were you're from and we look at things differently, it doesn't make me ignorant.
It doesn't make anyone else ignorant for stating OUR opinions too.

I'm in a fraternity...Actually, helped start one. It's fun, but our main goal isn't to wear letters to get girls. Hell, most of us are in relationships anyway (with girls, mind you.) You look down at frats. So be it. I look down on people who don't try and look at things from all perspectives. Not all frats are bad, so lighten up.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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