"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Frat Guys = DJs?

Donald Kaufman

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In America, fraternities are about networking. They have big houses, funding and mean something in later life.

In Canada, frats are about people getting kicked out of a dorm and looking for somewhere they can live without having anyone to cosign their lease. They have rundown shacks, no funding, and are something you will never admit to in later life.

Overall, everything post secondary related in Canada is about killing time till someone dies so you can take their job.

In America it's about social standing.

When I write my educational qualifications on a form they say something like, "So, you spent 7 years in University. Hmn. How'd you do in High School?" :rolleyes:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Mjfan12

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sorry for bumping this.

I am also thinking about joining a frat. I go to the university of illinois at chicago (uic)

I dont know mcuh about the frats here on campus, but only one of them has a house, and one of my friends who I went to highschool with is in it.

I want to meet new people. I mean, I made many "friends" during my first year, but none of them I would consider good friends. I mean we only hung out at school, and never outside of it.

I'm looking for friends that I can depend on and we can go hanging out during the weekends.

I am not planning to do it for girls, but if that happens, then thats cool.

I plan on being a lawyer, so I REALLY need to start networking early on to help me out later in life.

I mean a lot of sucessful people were a part of frats, and I hope to be among them.

here are the frats in my campus
which ones are good? which ones dont haze? and which ones are national?

Alpha Gamma Chi
Alpha Epsilon Pi
Alpha Phi Alpha
Beta Phi Pi
Zeta Psi
Theta Xi
Kappa Alpha Psi
Kappa Alpha Psi
Kappa Alpha Psi
Sigma Alpha Mu
Sigma Lambda Beta
Tau Phi Sigma
Phi Beta Sigma
Chi Sigma Tau
Omega Delta
 

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If you want to find a good frat, talk to sorority girls. They'll tell you which frats throw best parties and are the most fun guys, etc.
 

Mjfan12

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Originally posted by MindOverMatter
If you want to find a good frat, talk to sorority girls. They'll tell you which frats throw best parties and are the most fun guys, etc.
I dont know any sorority girls lol. all the girls I know arent in one.
 

MindOverMatter

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if you can't find a sorority girl on campus, you're not talking to enough girls...

read the bible and get out there.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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