Fragile relationship... Must destroy.

[blipp]

I'm in a bind.

Long story short.

I meet girl. We spend weeks flirting. I never formally made a move. (yes, i regret it, dont bash me) She moves along and starts dating another guy...

We stop *****footing for a while and I totally back off. We're friends... Not in the friend-zone though.

Here's the drama. This other guy is eventually moving away... Graduating college. She finally comes to terms with this and her relationship is on the rocks. I insinuated that I would make a move when this whole thing finally fell apart. And as it did, we started spending a lot more time together.

The relationship eventually broke. However, I didn't ask her out afterwards due to circumstances outside my control (work, school, etc.), she assumed I wasn't interested anymore and now she's in a long distance relationship with this other guy. We went out to a club once, but i didn't kiss her, as she had just broken up with the guy two days earlier - a simple hug goodnight.

Now that I find myself with the time and willingness to ask her out, I have no idea how to approach this situation.

I know nexting her is an option... But I'm not gonna do it until i actually try something. This isn't just another girl, as i really care about her.

I thought about writing her a love letter, but that's AFC behavior, and so is sitting her down and telling her how i feel. I'm under the impression that I have to throw my balls out there and do something really romantic for her, but I'm drawing a blank.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

How do you really care about her already? Nothing has happened between you two at all? Get a grip of your emotions before you turn AFC, if you haven't already.



PIMP

 

[Six-String Samurai]

Just like any other time you're trying to pull a move on a girl you have prior history with, even if it's strictly platonic, it all depends on how much you value your friendship. If it would destroy you emotionally should contact between you stop if things don't work out, then don't try anything.

If you're willing to risk that friendship for possibly more, then it's all about confidence and taking the plunge. Get her alone, put on a movie, try for a kiss. If she declines you, just tease her about it and move on. If she's receptive... then you know what to do! (I hope) Seriously man, you just gotta make a move already, you've waited too long as it is. Just grab your balls and do what you must.

If you do what you've always done, you get what you've always gotten.

 

[NatureGuy]

Here's what I would suggest: leave your
apprehensions, expectations and analyzing aside. Then call her, ask what's she's been doing or how she's been doing (or whatever), then ask her out. Don't declare your love or reveal any strong feelings - be friendly, confident, and don't react much if she say's something about her ex or says anything of a 'bothersome' (i.e., testing) nature. Stay cool and make a date !

 

[DJ_Dork]

Test her out with kino first.