Alright dude, so I was talking to this girl named Nikki this morning in band. She opened me eventually and I started to do some shock and awe to raise buying temperature. I basically went "Wow, you're looking so hot today, I mean seriously why are you doing this to me women? Honestly though, do you expect guys not to be nervous around you when you flaunt it so much?" and she was like "Flaunting?" laughing and stuff. Then I teased her about looking at me a certain way and she's like "Well do you want me to stop?". Blah blah, so things are going well from there and as her buying temperature is raised, I escalate by putting my hand on her shoulder. We talk for a while after that, but then I put my arm around her and she's like "Remember, the boyfriend deal?" and I take my arm off and this is probably what killed the set, because she broke up with her boyfriend, so it was probably a sh1t test. After that the set slowly died.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
FR: Where'd I go wrong?
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