"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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FR: Walden plays with direct approaches.

Walden

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...Snip from my LJ...

Today in Auckland was a drizzly grey skies day , heavy humidiity , occasional rain, possibility of HBs 100% (hey it is Auckland).

Saturday sarging.

Got up at Imys place and went into the city. For a half hour I couldn't get started till I decided to do 6 appraches in 60 minutes. weird that when you haven't done a warmup it' like you'll never approach again and when youve done the first two you're a sarging juggernaught.

The sarges went okay (no closes ) mainly thru not sticking in the set. My direct approach went well too.

Last one I did was ona solid 8.5 who I was convinced was from outta town and wouldn't speak engish. For that reason I thought that mean I'd have to go indirect (wtf ? huh? subconscious? anyone explain my deluded mid-sarge logic).

Unfortunately I slipped out cos of lack of stickability,not a problem you get with direct.

Therefore my mssion for the rest of the arvo wass to run a half dozen direct sets in an hour.

So I went out and did 5 direct approaches at the K road festival. Festival itself was cool , ran into Gish from the comedy club , and into a guy I used to do Aikido with at a capoeira demonstration.

First one opened a cuteish , youngish chubbyish blonde named Abby. She smiled , said thank you and I got under weigh , "Auckland Girls" went well , "4 girl roommates" went well (she lives downtown) I regard both of these as DHVs , and you could see her buying temp rise. She made to exit , so I did a reflexive # close , got the digits and went.

Second direct approach was on a cute Canadian girl , I literally ran across the street to do it (again the indirect kayfabe prevents this) and it went well, told a few real stories , and Auckland Girls as a DHV , went for the close as an instadate then a meet then I took the hint. Still , I got active interest on both approaches which I don't get going indirect.

Next one bombed. I didnt get passing EC beforehand so the girl was scared out. Lesson : need passing EC a couple times before you run it. You can get away with this on the crossing girl cos you have an excuse to go to her specifically.

Last one was a cute firedancer named Sophie. I'd choked a couple times and by the time I went in she had a CB mate there. Set went real well, (she was a pyrotechnician , and I shouldawouldacoulda said I was an armourer but didn't for some reason) not as authoritative in this set, and her CB mate came and pulled her out (a little early , I couldawouldashoulda closed if I'd been more aggressive on the sarge).

Good results tho'

Tonlaity and content have improved , I spent a half hour at luchtime yesterday practicing my ****, an dit's already helped some.

Mission for tomorrow is to go run 6 direct openers on the clock (that massively improved my productivity , otherwise I just f*** around out there), one on a group and one on a "hard target" (chick in a caf or someplace I don't have a good reason to be).

Well happy with the day's sarging tho'
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Walden

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Yep. Tho in my hometown it's hard not to run into people I know.
 
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