slitherjef
Senior Don Juan
Well, tonight after work, I had a coffee date with that cute 7 from work. We walked up to starbucks, chatting along the way. She started talking about work, I changed the subject after a couple minutes to focus on her as we walked. Once we got to the coffee shop I asked how we should handle this, then I said, "I got this round, you get the next one". We ordered, I paid, got got our drinks and went to have a set on the sofa.
We sat down at the ends of the couch, I was on one end, she on the other facing at an angle from each other, mostly facing forward. (now that I think of it, not so sure this was a good sign) but we talked, I asked most of the questions, relating when I could. Got her to laugh here and there, even poking a little fun at her. I say I got her to do about 90% of the talking. There was some eye contact. While talking I kept my focus on her, I mean, looking at her. I was a bit nervous, there was brief periods of quietness, but nothing longer then say 15 seconds. I was relaxed, was sitting back, had my arm on the back of the couch, facing her general direction most of the time.
At one point of the conversation she said she don't back down from dares I shot her a sly smile and replied, "Hmmm... that is an interesting piece of information to have" she said might not be the best thing to be telling people
We finish up our drinks and I tell her I would walk her back up to the store where her bike was, I was headed that way anyway. Walking back we talked more, asking her what type of music she liked and we had a good conversation about that.
I walked her back to her bike and wrapped things up for the "Date" I was leaning on the bike rack, got up, told her I had fun, walked over to her and gave her a hug. One handed hug. She gave me a hug back, said she had fun. Told her I would see her tomorrow at work. As I walked away, I told her I was going to dare her to cook for me she smiled
All in all, I realize I made a few errors. But it was my first date. Ever. I hope none of the mistakes where glaring ones. I failed to do any kino until the end of the date, but since I work around her, I did not want to come accross as some horny b@stard who only wanted one thing. And she was sitting on the other end of the couch. Or so those where the excuses I used to my self. At least I did not shake her hand LOL
I realize I may just friendzoned, but its all good. I will try for a 2nd date, see if I can get her to cook for me and we can watch a movie at her place. If date two happens I will escalate things - kiss close.
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A few quick after thoughts. I was nervous, but I met up with her, all that went away. If things don't pan out with her, like if I get LJBFs I just proved to MYSELF that I CAN actualy get a girl to go out with me.
We sat down at the ends of the couch, I was on one end, she on the other facing at an angle from each other, mostly facing forward. (now that I think of it, not so sure this was a good sign) but we talked, I asked most of the questions, relating when I could. Got her to laugh here and there, even poking a little fun at her. I say I got her to do about 90% of the talking. There was some eye contact. While talking I kept my focus on her, I mean, looking at her. I was a bit nervous, there was brief periods of quietness, but nothing longer then say 15 seconds. I was relaxed, was sitting back, had my arm on the back of the couch, facing her general direction most of the time.
At one point of the conversation she said she don't back down from dares I shot her a sly smile and replied, "Hmmm... that is an interesting piece of information to have" she said might not be the best thing to be telling people
We finish up our drinks and I tell her I would walk her back up to the store where her bike was, I was headed that way anyway. Walking back we talked more, asking her what type of music she liked and we had a good conversation about that.
I walked her back to her bike and wrapped things up for the "Date" I was leaning on the bike rack, got up, told her I had fun, walked over to her and gave her a hug. One handed hug. She gave me a hug back, said she had fun. Told her I would see her tomorrow at work. As I walked away, I told her I was going to dare her to cook for me
she smiledAll in all, I realize I made a few errors. But it was my first date. Ever. I hope none of the mistakes where glaring ones. I failed to do any kino until the end of the date, but since I work around her, I did not want to come accross as some horny b@stard who only wanted one thing. And she was sitting on the other end of the couch. Or so those where the excuses I used to my self. At least I did not shake her hand LOL
I realize I may just friendzoned, but its all good. I will try for a 2nd date, see if I can get her to cook for me and we can watch a movie at her place. If date two happens I will escalate things - kiss close.
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A few quick after thoughts. I was nervous, but I met up with her, all that went away. If things don't pan out with her, like if I get LJBFs I just proved to MYSELF that I CAN actualy get a girl to go out with me.
