"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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FR : Useless weekend.

Warrior74

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This weekend was a complete bust. At first I thought I was going to be with my daughter, but between her and her mother things didn't work out. I find this out friday night just after I gassed up the car and was just leaving town to go get her ( they stay about 2hrs away). That's okay, next weekend is easter so we'll have a good one together her and I.

So I turn around and head back home. No plans...its 7pm and everyone already has plans for the evening. I call it a night and have a quiet Friday night in on the internetz and watching movies.

Saturday I clean house, wash the car, take clothes to the cleaners, all that maintenance stuff. Have dinner with some friends, including one of my buddies who has no game. We chop up game and he refuses to listen to any of our friends suggestions for improvements...so...I leave his house and go out solo. I get a text from two new girls. They both are out, but they are going to dance clubs and I was in a rock n roll state of mind. I head out to the grand opening of a new rock venue and run into a friend of mine and her husband, its her birthday, party time!

We start off with jager shots and it goes down hill from there. Honestly the whole time I kept thinking how I would rather be with my daughter, it throws me off when it's not my weekend. I usually have things lined up for my free weekends. The birthday girl has a cute friend in town for the weekend. We hit it off....good conversation, she buys me two rounds, I reciprocate. Until her azzhole ex boyfriend shows up. I'm not one of those AMOG type of guys, so I end up talking to these two hairdressers. Got ****blocked by the fat one who drags the hot one off to another bar. I get her number before we go.

We pick up a few extras and the whole group heads off to an after hours place....for some reason, (probably because of the massive drunk I had on at the moment) fat girls start thinking they have a chance. At this point the azzhole ex is gone but now I can't get these fat chics out of my face. I get pissed and start asking the big girls their sizes. They call me a jerk and they leave. The cute girl tells me I'm being a d1ck just like her ex and stops talking to me. I'm not happy. Nobody likes me. I get a text from one of the girls I wanted to hook up with earlier, they are at some hood club where someone just got shot a few weeks ago, I tell her when she stops being being ghetto to call me. She tells me to go F myself. I'm a complete jerk. Drunk, a lil depressed and horny I start hitting on the redhead slut bartender and ask her how much coke she does in a week and if she likes anal, I get asked to leave the bar. I know the owner so he lets me stay.
I call the hairdresser, she doesn't pick up. I text her and she says shes at the hotel going to bed. F! The party winds down, I go to another afterhours spot and throw em back until I can't see straight and finally make my way home.

Yes I did everything pretty much wrong last night, not to mention a hellacious hangover headache today. But F it, I have to tell you guys the good with the bad. And this was as bad as it has been in years.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Well don't take it too hard man. I know from your post-history you're one of those relentless self-improvement guys warrior, but as much as we deny it we're all human and everyone has an off day, week, month, whatever. Be very careful about redlining stress for too long or it will express itself in ways you wouldn't expect. I don't post all the dumb or regressive AFC **** I do but trust me it's there.

Do some damage control if it's practical and focus on next weekend with your daughter. And at least you have some good stories for the future! Always a saving grace of being a walking disaster.

"Did you say my dress was too tight?"
"I don't know... turn around"
 

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I take great enjoyment out of my post mortems after one of those lost nights out. You have to laugh at yourself sometimes otherwise you'd go nuts.
 

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It sounds like you were more focused on alcohol entering your system than anything else. Perhaps try a night out without the booze and see if you have different results, or do you need it in order to socialize? It sounds like it affected your attitude as the night wore on.
 

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The alcohol MIGHT have encouraged the rest of the night to go downhill, but i'm pretty sure that's not what that made the OP's weekend "useless".

IF I planned on seeing my daughter and ended up not being able to, no amount of HBs could/ would replace that.





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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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