"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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FR: The 2 sets I approached/interacted with today.

ElStud

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You guys know the deal, almost everyday I'm at school I approach a few sets of girls and these are how those interactions with. Both sets seemed pretty interested, especially the first.

Approach #1
I'm basically walking around the caffeteria and I sit down and open this 2-set. As with all the approaches I can't really remember a lot of the exact details, but I'll tell you what I remember.

- I open them with the high five opener and that seems to open the set up.

- At one point me and one of the girl 1 are just talking about instruments and she tells me she plays guitar. Also when I talked about learning trumpet over the weekend she said "Yeah, I tried to play my brothers trumpet and couldn't do it".

- When I tell girl1 my name, she asks me if I use to ride her bus and I said yes.

- At one point we're discussing music and the girls tell me they have a band. I basically ask about the band and I tell them that I'll check out any shows they have.

- I got their names and they both handshaked me.

- I closed the set with "Well it was cool talking to you girls" and girl1 says "It was cool talking with you too" and girl1 shakes my hand again before I leave the set.
Approach #2
I'm sitting at this table for a while at lunch and this Jacquie chick comes and sits down. Eventually I start talking to her...

- I open her starting to ask her why she's so quiet and we start off of that.

- And the rest of the set is me constantly teasing and busting on the Jacquie girl. At one point this Craig dude tries to AMOG, but ofcourse I'm unaffected and I stay in the set with the 2 girls still laughing at me. But that's really the only way to summarize the approach, me busting on the Jacquie constantly and the group laughing.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DonJoseCantosie

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Stop making so many threads. Just put it all in a journal. Its hard to keep track of them. Im glad ur approaching and interacting, but whats seductive about the point of conversation ur talking about? Its purely small talk....which is not good as ur more of a friend than anything. But keep it up my friend :). U've improved in opening.
 

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Uhmm not trying to be an ass but what is the point of posting random conversations with girls that are pretty much meaningless.. usually FRs involve you getting a #... just my 2 cents
 

Grand Wizzard Alamar

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Elstud, you have really good confidence and make really good approaches, but they're too much like friendly approaches, meaning you can have fun with the girls you talk to but they don't really see you as someone they'd fvck or date.
You gotta show them that you're interested, but not like you just want them for their body... so you gotta show you're interested in them, and you gotta get the girl to open up a little to you, by being a bit more sexual, and of course #closing shows interest because the girl thinks that you want to call her to talk more or hang out.

Hey, it can't hurt to try something new... go for some #closes tomorrow!
 

ElStud

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Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
Elstud, you have really good confidence and make really good approaches, but they're too much like friendly approaches, meaning you can have fun with the girls you talk to but they don't really see you as someone they'd fvck or date.
You gotta show them that you're interested, but not like you just want them for their body... so you gotta show you're interested in them, and you gotta get the girl to open up a little to you, by being a bit more sexual, and of course #closing shows interest because the girl thinks that you want to call her to talk more or hang out.

Hey, it can't hurt to try something new... go for some #closes tomorrow!
Oh sorry about that I don't go up to every girl wanting to f*ck them. And I don't really care about number closing either, I'd rather go for a kiss or something. And I added the other set.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ElStud said:
Oh sorry about that I don't go up to every girl wanting to f*ck them. And I don't really care about number closing either, I'd rather go for a kiss or something. And I added the other set.
If you'd rather go for the kiss what's stopping you?
 

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ElStud, if they seemed interested, then you gotta step it up. next time a set seems interested, ask if the girl has a boyfriend. if she asks why, say "because I want to know if I'm gonna get beat up for hitting on you." Funny, and expresses your interest. But this convo had no escalation whatsoever.

have you been approaching long? it looks like you have been consciously doing it for a couple years. any girlfriends yet? or kisses? or have conversations been like this the whole time?
 

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robstar said:
If you'd rather go for the kiss what's stopping you?
You really want to fvcking know? I haven't had the chance to kiss close any of the girls I'd actually want to kiss. And there are really only a few particular chicks that I want to k-close.
 

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ElStud said:
You really want to fvcking know? I haven't had the chance to kiss close any of the girls I'd actually want to kiss. And there are really only a few particular chicks that I want to k-close.
I smell bull****.

And make A THREAD for these, i'm sick of seeing a new one every day. They're totally pointless, you clearly have no interest in improving.
 
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