FR: Talked to a girl.

[ElStud]

Talked to a girl here's how it went:

[I tap her on her shoulder]
Me: Are you going to homecoming?
Girl: Oh, I don't know.
Me: Ah, well I'm gonna be there so you know it'll be fun. My friend is also having this party next Saturday after band that'll be really cool. There'll be a pool party, video games, food, it'll be cool. And yeah, we can't have JUST band people there, that would get kind of boring.
Girl: Will you be there?
Me: Yeah.
Me: So are you going?
Girl: Yeah, I might.
Me: Well if you need the information for where it's going to be at just talk to me.

 

[playatobe]

okay

 

[Charm]

You've done exactly what this site tells you not to do. You're insecurity in simply asking her out caused you to relapse into the attitude of the doomed "PROVIDER". Here, you are seen providing here with party details: "If you need info for where it's going to be at just talk to me".

Instead, you want to be saying:

"I can pick you up around 7oclock while i'm on my way to the party." - Look at her for response.

If she says:
"Sure, that sounds great"
You say:
Here's my phone, put your number in it. (she puts in number).

Now you can either get directions to her place on the spot (I recommend this) or call her later for them.

If she says: "No thanks" you can say "Well, i'm sure there will be some other awesome parties. See you around." and walk off.
OR
"Well, that leaves a spot open then for some other lucky lady."

 

[WesCottII]

Just a tip, never approach a woman from behind.

 

[Kev07]

You've done exactly what this site tells you not to do. You're insecurity in simply asking her out caused you to relapse into the attitude of the doomed "PROVIDER". Here, you are seen providing here with party details: "If you need info for where it's going to be at just talk to me".

Instead, you want to be saying:

"I can pick you up around 7oclock while i'm on my way to the party." - Look at her for response.

If she says:
"Sure, that sounds great"
You say:
Here's my phone, put your number in it. (she puts in number).

Now you can either get directions to her place on the spot (I recommend this) or call her later for them.

If she says: "No thanks" you can say "Well, i'm sure there will be some other awesome parties. See you around." and walk off.
OR
"Well, that leaves a spot open then for some other lucky lady."

Yep, seconding this.

 

[ElStud]

So I found out the party is APPARENTLY tommorow, so should I just find her and ask "So what time should I pick you up?". Problem, I have no car.

 

[Kev07]

no, you already told her that you'll see her there.

find another girl to pick up

 

[Charm]

^ agree with Kev. You already blew it and you are still doubting yourself by asking us if you should ask her. Eliminate this self-doubt. Treat your dating life as a social experiment and take risks.

Does this girl show any interest level in you already? Do any other girls? Perhaps you should just go to this party and meet new girls at the party?

 

[ElStud]

^ agree with Kev. You already blew it and you are still doubting yourself by asking us if you should ask her. Eliminate this self-doubt. Treat your dating life as a social experiment and take risks.

Does this girl show any interest level in you already? Do any other girls? Perhaps you should just go to this party and meet new girls at the party?

Well she was playing with her hair if that means anything.

Why not just meet new girls? I know all the girls in band already.

 

[Charm]

Always meet new girls. You shouldn't even have to ask me that