FR: Swedish Nurse

[ZenoB]

Here is a recent conquest I'd like to share because it was one for the books of my own experiences.

PART 1- AMSTERDAM

Matched her on Tinder. Thin, blond hair, brown eyes, big DSL's, hints of a great rack under her somewhat baggy button-up white shirt.

She was visiting her girlfriend in my city for just a few days so there was just one night when we could meet up. She decided last minute to join me and a couple friends at the bar we were at. Very touchy-feely from the get-go, leaning into me, pressing her breasts against me when we talked, not only a very good sign that she definitely was DTF, but this was like a dream date. I was thinking- Why can't it always be like this? So we got comfortable with each other super fast and it was easy to escalate. Soon making out. Soon negotiating with the logistics of her coming home with me.

Got a taxi, took her home, undressed and we banged. She has a great sexy body with verses tattooed on each flank, and her tits are probably the best I've ever personally handled. I watched her beautiful face receiving pleasure as we smashed, and we both came at the same time. I couldn't believe it. This seemed too good to be true. After sex, she told me " Ï think I could fall in love with you." Gentlemen, I already was in love with her.

I wanted her to stay the night, and at first she agreed. But she kept feeling compelled to meet up with her friend again. I started fingering her and she got aroused and we banged again. Then we showered and I called her an uber. As the taxi arrived we kissed passionately in the street and made plans to meet the next day.

The next day I met her for lunch at a place I thought she would like (she's vegan). Then we walked around my city for a while, holding hands and kissing. Then I had to go back to work (forgot to mention this was a school night so yeah I was pretty unproductive at work that day ). So we said good byes. I thought I might see her one more time before she flew back to Stockholm that night, but it didn't work out time-wise.

Red flags a wise Don Juan can already gather from this:
- Quick infatuation
- Tattoos
- Vegan
- Tinder (maybe, over here it's served me well though)

Next up when I have time to write it is PART 2- STOCKHOLM

 

[ZenoB]

PART 2- STOCKHOLM

This girl had left a really good impression on me, easily becoming my top plate despite the unrealistic distance. Not only was she very good-looking, but she seemed down-to-earth (a rare combination), and most importantly she had hooked up with me, the drunken sex was good, and she still idolized me, even on the following day.

After sex, we had talked about what we each wanted in the future, and she wants kids, which I always interpret as a good sign especially coming from a girl in her mid-20's these days. So I was thinking have I found one of those diamonds in the rough, an elusive unicorn; could this chick actually be gf/ wife material? I also realized that she totally stroked my ego too. I was bragging to my friends about hooking up with a Swedish nurse. It was like a fantasy come true and pretty cool experience.

I had to travel on holiday for a couple weeks so I knew I wouldn't be seeing her for a while. Instead of trying to make plans to see her again, I opted to wait until I got back, to also gauge how her interest level changes with the time in-between. During this time, we chatted off and on. I would usually initiate, and she would reply. But she didn't like to chat. I figured it might be because she works night-shifts at the hospital. She did send me a few cute pics of her in her nurse outfit at work though, which kept the fantasy going in my mind. I also realized I needed to stop focusing on her too much, which I did.

When I arrived back from holiday I figured I might as well try to visit her. It was the only way to see if things could progress ever, and the longer I waited, the less chance of that there was of happening. So I asked her and her response was what I'd hoped. She gave me a weekend when she would be off work to visit. After verifying the plans with her a few times, I finally purchased the ticket to Stockholm to stay with her for a weekend. I figured what is the worse that could happen? Even if she stood me up after I arrived, I could just get a hotel and enjoy the city on my own. Stockholm is a beautiful city and it had been years since I'd visited, now I had a really good reason to!

Ok this is ending up being longer than I expected, so I'll have to finish the story in another post...

 

[ZenoB]

PART 2- STOCKHOLM (cont.)

Fly to Stockholm on a Friday, follow the nurse's instructions and meet her at the bus stop next to her apartment. She lives right next to the hospital! We go to her place, drop my stuff off, then go to the grocery to buy ingredients for dinner. Her apartment is unusual. Very minimalist, few possessions and no tv, quiet, dark. I found it very inspiring. I discovered not only is her apartment very monochrome, but so is her wardrobe. This girl only wears black, white, and shades of grey.

Everything is just like as we had left it five weeks ago, except she is now brunette instead of blond. Right away we're kissing, kino. I'm not vegan but play along...figured I can do that for the weekend np. I sit in the kitchen with her as she makes us a veggie curry for dinner. We really seem to click; this girl seems so nice and easy-going and different- I'm getting those pangs you get when you're falling in love. We make tentative plans for the next day. It's already late though so after dinner and wine we get in her bed, bang, and fall asleep.

Next morning we bang again (those perfect tits of hers are like jiggling gelatin desserts) and get ready, go into the city. The whole day we're roaming around, exploring her city, holding hands, making out, all lovey-dovey. She shows me some romantic vista points, we meet a couple friends of mine I haven't seen in a while, we go to a vegan cafe she wants to go to, we go to a couple bars my friend is at in a cool part of sodermalm....everything seems to be going great! She's cool with meeting my friends and not too picky about what we do.

Finally its after midnight and we've been drinking a few hours at those bars and we decide to head home. I knew I shouldn't drink anymore if I wanted to perform in bed, and we both wanted to wake up early enough to have a full day in the sunlight (in the winter in Sweden its only light out for a few hours like 8-3pm). She's really keen to get a vegan burger otw back at this fast food place. Sounds good to me, so we head over there.

So here is where the dream finally cracks, and I never saw it coming- at a f***ing fast food restaurant

We get the fast vegan food and finish eating it (it was disgusting those two things don't mix hehe). I'd been getting some bad vibes from the place though and just wanted to leave. She wanted to stay. I suggested again that we leave. I wanted to walk around and get some fresh air, and didn't want to spend another minute of my Saturday night in this too brightly lit place with loud drunk people all around us.

But she wasn't getting my indirect message that I really just wanted to get out of there, instead her face was glued to her phone. She wanted to stay inside and not get cold waiting for the bus. I got up kind of antsy and tossed our garbage, and thought she was going to follow me. Turn and she's still looking at her phone.

So I walked back there and basically said come on can we please just get out of here I need to go. She finally agrees but when we get outside she is looking at me like I am crazy. She can't understand why I needed to leave. She said she is shocked and has never seen someone react like that. I try to explain but she storms off down the sidewalk without me. This doesn't make sense! All I wanted to do was leave a boring, uncomfortable fast food restaurant.

In that instant all the trust, respect, and intimacy was shattered.

She walked quickly down the sidewalk away from me and I'm starting to wonder if she is leaving without me. I lost her in the crowd and panicked a moment. Wtf was going on all of a sudden with this chick?! I find her and cross the street and run a bit to catch up to her. I tell her wth are you doing that's really f***ing rude and immature to walk away from me like that.

From this point onward she was unable to communicate with me like an adult. Every time I tried to talk to her reasonably, she would blame me for something, or turn away and say she can't talk about it right now. About what?! Something had clearly triggered this girl and she wasn't able to deal with whatever emotions or thoughts were conjured up from it. She had completely changed into another person, and seemed to be in this traumatized state. She didn't want me to touch or kiss her anymore. It was so f***ing weird! And she was gaslighting it all as my fault...it all happened so fast it threw me through a loop.

We got on the bus and went back to her place. At this point I wasn't sure what she was going to do. She was completely distant and unable to look me in the eyes anymore, like I was some freak now. We tried to talk about it some more and it was useless. I even apologized but it only made her nastier and less respectful to me (of course).

This girl had been triggered. No matter what I said or did, she'd come up with another thing to blame me for and keep her innocence. It was so silly! Our so-called conversation was going in loops and getting nowhere. She didn't want to talk it out, she couldn't deal with whatever happened.

We got in bed and kept talking, soon she started saying scary s#** like she isn't feeling comfortable now, this house is her safe place and I'm bringing negativity into her life! At this point I said fine I'll sleep on the couch then, grabbed a duvet and pillow, got out of her bed and went to the couch. She turned over in the covers and was looking at her phone in a way to shield it from me. She was probably telling her friends how crazy I was hah!

I couldn't believe how things had turned sour so quickly and unexpectantly, after such a happy romantic day together. Needless to say this mindf***ing made it hard to sleep as my mind processed it all during the night. Plus I was pissed off because I was expecting to bang and instead was on the couch like a cuck. How had this seeming great start to a beautiful relationship crashed and burned? I was already going through the stages of mourning, but maybe there was hope, slight hope, that in the morning she would recover to her sweet sexy self and we could have amazing make-up sex (never give up )

In the morning, she hadn't changed. We made breakfast and she was strangely quiet and distant, kept looking down, away from my eyes, and responded very slowly in a monotone, depressed-sounding voice. She said she was still shocked about how I was last night. We went through the whole loop again and she jumped out of her chair and quickly walked away to her couch and just sit there staring down at it in silence. I decided to just leave and not spend the day with her, because according to her my actions from last night would put her in a bad mood all day. I certainly didn't want to spend it with her then!

It was over. I stayed cordial and packed my stuff up. We hugged goodbye and I left. Spent the rest of the day wandering around Stockholm on my own, processing the toxicity that now infected me. All I wanted to do was leave a fast food restaurant wtf?!?! Maybe she didn't like being told what to do? Maybe she was actually a mental patient at the hospital, not a nurse?

It will never make sense, but I feel fortunate to have survived this chick and revealed her true character after just four days together. It could have been a lot worse. Keep in mind I know I probably should have left as soon as she went mental on me, but I needed to get my stuff from her place and then I was afraid if I left her that night and found a hotel she might be triggered even more.

My dreams of seeing her again and maybe one day raising a family were crushed, but I still had a fun weekend trip. Fortunately I've dealt with crazy girls before so it was easier to handle this episode. I'm surprised how it happened, but obviously this girl has issues and traits of a personality disorder.

She did mention being raped when she was younger, and being estranged from her family. Which is pretty f***ed up and sad! But also big red flags. She acted like the perfect girl so I gave her a chance. She was perfectly sweet until she wasn't, and then I saw this disturbed human being. I can't imagine ditching someone I was letting stay at my place, suddenly ignoring them and dropping all intimacy, or making them sleep on my couch. These are things children do. Things crazy girls do for power.

In the future will I do it differently? Maybe I'd go ahead and get my own hotel, but honestly not much. I got to bang her again and it's a good story to tell my friends. I hope you enjoyed it if you've read this far, and recognized some patterns of behavior and characteristics that will help you in your own dating/ relationship experiences.

Thanks for reading.

 

[marmel75]

Nothing you really did wrong. Sometimes you just have to chalk it up to damaged goods...when its too good to be true, it usually is.

 

[Trump]

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Red flags a wise Don Juan can already gather from this:
- Quick infatuation
- Tattoos
- Vegan
- Tinder (maybe, over here it's served me well though)

So many red flags that you slept with her.