"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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So there was this Senior Fair thing at school today, where all the seniors who did senior project showed off their project. Today I got 2 successful number closes, but I'm only gonna talk about one of them here.

So I'm walking and I go up to this girl named Sam and start talking to her. I eventually ask her what she was reading and she said it was her literary thingmajig, basically her senior project. Then I think I asked her how good she was blah blah and eventually I ask her to read one of the poems to me and she does.

So I'm all into the moment and stuff and I tell her the poems were really good and stuff and told her that was something I found of value in a woman. After that I basically just talked with her, saw her giving eye contact to her friends once in a while, but she mostly stayed focused on me. So at one point the Jordyn friend comes in and interrupts me and I just high five her. Eventually I get Sam's attention again and say I gotta go but I'm gonna call her.

So then I take my phone out and give it to her and she puts it in.
Another successful number.

Overall, I just did a lot of approaches today at the senior fair. Let's also add that I did all these approaches after having not slept for a day.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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What is your plan of action for this summer? Where are you gonna take these girls out to? Curious, because I'm not sure what exactly I'm gonna do...I have a few #s to call, let the summer begin :D
 

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ARrocket said:
What is your plan of action for this summer? Where are you gonna take these girls out to? Curious, because I'm not sure what exactly I'm gonna do...I have a few #s to call, let the summer begin :D
I don't know lol hang out with friends probably get my own car. Let's just say my current friends are unreliable for rides.

I've got a ton of numbers, but god knows if I'll ever really call.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ElStud said:
I don't know lol hang out with friends probably get my own car. Let's just say my current friends are unreliable for rides.

I've got a ton of numbers, but god knows if I'll ever really call.
Why on earth would you go and do a crazy thing like that!!!!
You already are successful, who needs physical contact when you've already got a journal full of numbers. Keep up the good work, maybe you can publish a novel about your success one day.
 

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Then whats the point of getting the numbers?
Why you don't you tell me? Whoops, you have none. You're scared to even approach girls. Don't go criticizing people if you haven't actually been out.

Why on earth would you go and do a crazy thing like that!!!!
You already are successful, who needs physical contact when you've already got a journal full of numbers. Keep up the good work, maybe you can publish a novel about your success one day.
Numbers don't mean much though.
 

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ElStud said:
Why you don't you tell me? Whoops, you have none. You're scared to even approach girls. Don't go criticizing people if you haven't actually been out.


Numbers don't mean much though.
I see you aren't familar with sarcasm, but thanks for emphasizing my point. There is no point in bragging about all the numbers you get if you never take it further then that. I don't understand why you don't call any of these girls and try to set up dates.

This should be the title of your next FR "FR: Called all the numbers"
Work on the phone game, see if you get interest and dates, and go from there. Nothing to lose in calling, and you have nothing to gain in sitting on your pile of numbers.
 

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I see you aren't familar with sarcasm, but thanks for emphasizing my point. There is no point in bragging about all the numbers you get if you never take it further then that. I don't understand why you don't call any of these girls and try to set up dates.

This should be the title of your next FR "FR: Called all the numbers"
Work on the phone game, see if you get interest and dates, and go from there. Nothing to lose in calling, and you have nothing to gain in sitting on your pile of numbers.
Who's bragging it about it? I'm not. And really the only reason I don't call em is either A. If the girls a Freshman I don't call her or B. I'm just scared I'm gonna call and she's gonna pick up, make some excuse and won't even give me the time of day.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ElStud said:
Who's bragging it about it? I'm not. And really the only reason I don't call em is either A. If the girls a Freshman I don't call her or B. I'm just scared I'm gonna call and she's gonna pick up, make some excuse and won't even give me the time of day.
Why does that scare you? You've already done the hard part, approaching, were you scared of rejection then? Why take a step back now? Besides, you said you just graduated, so if you get shot down chances are you will never see nor speak to these girls ever again. Why not give it a shot, there really isn't anything to be scared of, and who knows, you might get your dik wet.

In another post you blamed your freinds for you not getting laid. Well how do you ever expect to get laid if you are scared to pursue women any farther then getting their numbers?
 

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How about instead of you getting their number, you give them your number and instruct them on when to call you. Thats how true macks do it. And if they end up not calling you, they either are A.) Not interested enough or B.) Can't follow simple directions anyway.
 

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ElStud said:
Overall, I just did a lot of approaches today at the senior fair. Let's also add that I did all these approaches after having not slept for a day.
Ooooh. It was all a dream. . .

Seriously, why are you telling us if you're not going to call? This is no different than me reporting everytime I take a dump. "Hey guys! I did a dump again! This time it looked like nuggets!" - that means nothing, just like your numbers.

Either step up, or ship out.
 

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ElStud said:
Why you don't you tell me? Whoops, you have none. You're scared to even approach girls. Don't go criticizing people if you haven't actually been out.


Numbers don't mean much though.

Uhm, I do have girls numbers, why would you assume I dont? Get a life
 

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Ignoring the Wescott and HandyAndy post, you guys are probably right and I just got to get the balls to call them.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Kev07 said:
There are many reasons to call, even if shes a freshman.

you don't HAVE to game every single girl you meet, ever thought about building a social circle of friends that consists of girls as well as guys?
Oh trust me I don't.
 

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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