"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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FR: Successful number close.

ElStud

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So there was this Senior Fair thing at school today, where all the seniors who did senior project showed off their project. Today I got 2 successful number closes, but I'm only gonna talk about one of them here.

So I'm walking and I go up to this girl named Sam and start talking to her. I eventually ask her what she was reading and she said it was her literary thingmajig, basically her senior project. Then I think I asked her how good she was blah blah and eventually I ask her to read one of the poems to me and she does.

So I'm all into the moment and stuff and I tell her the poems were really good and stuff and told her that was something I found of value in a woman. After that I basically just talked with her, saw her giving eye contact to her friends once in a while, but she mostly stayed focused on me. So at one point the Jordyn friend comes in and interrupts me and I just high five her. Eventually I get Sam's attention again and say I gotta go but I'm gonna call her.

So then I take my phone out and give it to her and she puts it in.
Another successful number.

Overall, I just did a lot of approaches today at the senior fair. Let's also add that I did all these approaches after having not slept for a day.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What is your plan of action for this summer? Where are you gonna take these girls out to? Curious, because I'm not sure what exactly I'm gonna do...I have a few #s to call, let the summer begin :D
 

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ARrocket said:
What is your plan of action for this summer? Where are you gonna take these girls out to? Curious, because I'm not sure what exactly I'm gonna do...I have a few #s to call, let the summer begin :D
I don't know lol hang out with friends probably get my own car. Let's just say my current friends are unreliable for rides.

I've got a ton of numbers, but god knows if I'll ever really call.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ElStud said:
I don't know lol hang out with friends probably get my own car. Let's just say my current friends are unreliable for rides.

I've got a ton of numbers, but god knows if I'll ever really call.
Why on earth would you go and do a crazy thing like that!!!!
You already are successful, who needs physical contact when you've already got a journal full of numbers. Keep up the good work, maybe you can publish a novel about your success one day.
 

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HandyAndy said:
Then whats the point of getting the numbers?
Why you don't you tell me? Whoops, you have none. You're scared to even approach girls. Don't go criticizing people if you haven't actually been out.

Why on earth would you go and do a crazy thing like that!!!!
You already are successful, who needs physical contact when you've already got a journal full of numbers. Keep up the good work, maybe you can publish a novel about your success one day.
Numbers don't mean much though.
 

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ElStud said:
Why you don't you tell me? Whoops, you have none. You're scared to even approach girls. Don't go criticizing people if you haven't actually been out.


Numbers don't mean much though.
I see you aren't familar with sarcasm, but thanks for emphasizing my point. There is no point in bragging about all the numbers you get if you never take it further then that. I don't understand why you don't call any of these girls and try to set up dates.

This should be the title of your next FR "FR: Called all the numbers"
Work on the phone game, see if you get interest and dates, and go from there. Nothing to lose in calling, and you have nothing to gain in sitting on your pile of numbers.
 

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I see you aren't familar with sarcasm, but thanks for emphasizing my point. There is no point in bragging about all the numbers you get if you never take it further then that. I don't understand why you don't call any of these girls and try to set up dates.

This should be the title of your next FR "FR: Called all the numbers"
Work on the phone game, see if you get interest and dates, and go from there. Nothing to lose in calling, and you have nothing to gain in sitting on your pile of numbers.
Who's bragging it about it? I'm not. And really the only reason I don't call em is either A. If the girls a Freshman I don't call her or B. I'm just scared I'm gonna call and she's gonna pick up, make some excuse and won't even give me the time of day.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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ElStud said:
Who's bragging it about it? I'm not. And really the only reason I don't call em is either A. If the girls a Freshman I don't call her or B. I'm just scared I'm gonna call and she's gonna pick up, make some excuse and won't even give me the time of day.
Why does that scare you? You've already done the hard part, approaching, were you scared of rejection then? Why take a step back now? Besides, you said you just graduated, so if you get shot down chances are you will never see nor speak to these girls ever again. Why not give it a shot, there really isn't anything to be scared of, and who knows, you might get your dik wet.

In another post you blamed your freinds for you not getting laid. Well how do you ever expect to get laid if you are scared to pursue women any farther then getting their numbers?
 

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How about instead of you getting their number, you give them your number and instruct them on when to call you. Thats how true macks do it. And if they end up not calling you, they either are A.) Not interested enough or B.) Can't follow simple directions anyway.
 

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ElStud said:
Overall, I just did a lot of approaches today at the senior fair. Let's also add that I did all these approaches after having not slept for a day.
Ooooh. It was all a dream. . .

Seriously, why are you telling us if you're not going to call? This is no different than me reporting everytime I take a dump. "Hey guys! I did a dump again! This time it looked like nuggets!" - that means nothing, just like your numbers.

Either step up, or ship out.
 

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ElStud said:
Why you don't you tell me? Whoops, you have none. You're scared to even approach girls. Don't go criticizing people if you haven't actually been out.


Numbers don't mean much though.

Uhm, I do have girls numbers, why would you assume I dont? Get a life
 

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Ignoring the Wescott and HandyAndy post, you guys are probably right and I just got to get the balls to call them.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Kev07 said:
There are many reasons to call, even if shes a freshman.

you don't HAVE to game every single girl you meet, ever thought about building a social circle of friends that consists of girls as well as guys?
Oh trust me I don't.
 

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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