"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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FR: School Dance

Yookiwooki

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Just got back from a school dance today, and I think I'm making some progress with the whole DJ thing.

I was pretty nervous getting in there, but it was pretty full and I had some friends there to chill with.

The first hour or so was complete ****, im not gonna lie. I felt pretty awkward on the dance floor. Its amazing how the dance works; it seems that most girls are dancing with guys, and the guys are just standing around in clumps watching the others get action. AFCism is really bad in high school, and I was really part of it for the first half of the dance.

Its not that I wasnt approaching; I was... but mabye from bad luck, or awkwardness, or some other reason, I was not getting ANY action.

I would dance with a girl for like 30 sec and she would 'have to leave.' At one point a girl I was dancing with looked over at her friend, who shook her head, and they both walked away. I was ****in pissed! I must have a bad reputation or something because im really not that bad looking.

I must have made four or five rejected approaches, until I started dancing with a HB 8.5 (pretty high on my scale). She was a new girl, and I guess she has no idea about reputation and such. We had a really good time; danced for like five minutes until I left for a drink.

After that, I just felt amazing. I just went out and danced with like 5 or 6 girls in the last hour and a half. I've never felt more confident.

I dont know what it is. For some reason, I can end up being incredibly confident, but I start off really awkward and timid.

What should I do to get myself in that mood of pure confidence at the beginning of the dance?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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john paul

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I know what your talking about. Its really hard to get there and be able to jump into the action right away. My secret? drink a little bit right before you go in. Just so your buzzing and relaxed, not stumbling around and slightly hammered. You go in feeling good and reeking of confidence just because your chilled out from the alcohol.

and by the time it wears off you have got plenty of confidence to last you the rest of the night completely sober.
 

Yookiwooki

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I donno about drinking. So far I havent tried it, and I think i'll stay away from it until college. I have absolutely no idea how I'll react to it, and I've got a lot of responsibilities in HS that might get ****ed up if I get caught.

I guess I have to just get through that anxious period, mabye if I hang out with some friends before hand or something it'll be easier. Mabye I just need to muscle through it.
 
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